If your 13yo ds is texting/hanging out with a girl

[Anonymous]

You and your husband need to talk and decide about boundaries, rules and values. Your rules and values need to be clearly communicated to your son. This is the beginning of reaching out and growing. There will be many changes ahead and NOW is the time to make sure everyone is on the same page. You are a good and concerned parent and there is definitely nothing wrong with making sure that things are aboveboard.

It should be made very clear to your son that you know he is growing up and that you plan to help him become a responsible, well functioning adult. He needs to recognize and accept that you will do everything you can to guide him through the process of growing up and accepting appropriate responsibility. Clear communication helps to build trusting relationships and helps in the growing up process.

[Anonymous]

Agree with 19:27. I wouldn't cold call. I would call if they are planning on doing something together and you need to "coordinate."

-- Mom of 13 yo boy that just started texting with a girl.

[Anonymous]

Have you spoken to your son about sex with this girl? when I was 13 I was very innocent but I had a friend who was definitely having full sex at this age. When her parents found out afterwards, they were devastated.

[Anonymous]

No, but my 13yr old also manages his oen social life. It has been my experience that once kids get older there is no real need for me to know the other parents. That is not true for sleepovers though, but since my son hates, with a passion, sleepovers and uses me as an excuse not to do them I have no concerns.