DW is in beginning stages of menopause; I'm having migraines for first time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a question, and I am a woman, why isn’t a DH allowed to express pain or discomfort? It doesn’t have to be a contest. He didn’t make it a contest; he never said he felt worse or even that he wanted any sympathy. It was an honest question about a phenomenon and everyone gets on the defensive about how we as women have everything so much worse. Just stop and be a decent human and answer the question; or don’t and move along.

If course he is but, by his own admission, he had Couvade’s Syndrome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a question, and I am a woman, why isn’t a DH allowed to express pain or discomfort? It doesn’t have to be a contest. He didn’t make it a contest; he never said he felt worse or even that he wanted any sympathy. It was an honest question about a phenomenon and everyone gets on the defensive about how we as women have everything so much worse. Just stop and be a decent human and answer the question; or don’t and move along.

Women like you don’t belong here. You are not nasty enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is kind of the epitome of when the wife is sick, the husband must be sicker so as to get out of covering for her.

Ugh! This is how my hisband was my whole pregnancy. I was on my own.

He turned out to be abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know your wife is menopausing?

She tells him?

With me the denching hot flashes were a tip off.

I would go see the doctor OP, just to rule out any other issues. In the best case scenario you may be responding to your wife.

[Anonymous]

I'm OP. After I replied yesterday, I decided I wouldn't check this thread again (but was curious when I saw it still hanging around tonight). I was thinking that some folks might be able to relate and provide advice, or maybe even share a funny story. I really wouldn't have guessed that I'd get roasted over this post.

How, or why, do some folks assume such ugly things about people they don't know? I really don't understand the raw meanness, ever, but especially in this day and time. Being mean is a choice.

Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts. I appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP. After I replied yesterday, I decided I wouldn't check this thread again (but was curious when I saw it still hanging around tonight). I was thinking that some folks might be able to relate and provide advice, or maybe even share a funny story. I really wouldn't have guessed that I'd get roasted over this post.

How, or why, do some folks assume such ugly things about people they don't know? I really don't understand the raw meanness, ever, but especially in this day and time. Being mean is a choice.

Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts. I appreciate it.

Are you new here? Just curious....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP. After I replied yesterday, I decided I wouldn't check this thread again (but was curious when I saw it still hanging around tonight). I was thinking that some folks might be able to relate and provide advice, or maybe even share a funny story. I really wouldn't have guessed that I'd get roasted over this post.

How, or why, do some folks assume such ugly things about people they don't know? I really don't understand the raw meanness, ever, but especially in this day and time. Being mean is a choice.

Thanks, everyone, for your thoughts. I appreciate it.

Are you new here? Just curious....

No, I've been around for a while.

[Anonymous]

Get naked, spread your legs and look down. Make sure you actually have a man's genitalia.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you are getting roasted ...
But I do really want to know how you experienced her pregnancy and how are you experiencing her menopause.