Anyone have more than one child with ADHD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have only one kid- yes, I'm absolutely sure I have ADHD. My DH may also have a mild case (I keep that observation to myself, but DH shows signs). We both finished grad school, had good careers, etc.

DS has a very high IQ which, I can't say this without sounding like a jerk, we think he also inherited from us. It's probably why DH and I both managed to be successful without treatment or medication.

Similar here in that I am a mom sure I have ADHD inattentive. I came across some material about adult ADHD 3 yrs ago and it made me look back on my childhood and college years in a whole new light. Like Pp, I had coping mechanisms and was able to do well academically. To a point...my missing some deadlines made me lose favor with my advisor who was pretty aloof. But I know my ideas were very good. I went on to a decent career and another graduate degree with fewer issues. Then I became a Mom, a mom of 2, a working mom of 2, and increasingly less able to keep things together. I take adderall and am glad to have it.
My DH does not have ADHD. DD11 has been pretty normal, a self-directed and independent kid able to do well academically with minimal parental supervision.
DS9 has always been a handful. When he was young we saw mainly oppositional behavior and lack of emotional regulation, and "rambunctious" behavior that DH and others insisted was typical for a little boy. But as he got into mid-elementary school, it became clear to me that his behavior and poor executive functioning were getting in the way of his classroom success.
We just had him formally evaluated and confirmed ADHD combined, with an exceptionally high IQ. When discussing things with the neuropsychiatrist he was explaining things in ways that I saw myself really clearly in the description even though he was talking generally about kids with ADHD. At one point he mDe a comment that was just like my last performance evaluation at work.
I am not sure whether I inherited it from a parent. My sisters do not have it. My late dad was possibly inattentive but it's hard to know...my mom does not seem to have it.
I am grateful to hear the other adult ADHD stories here. I feel less alone!

[Anonymous]

Can I ask where you got the neuropsych evaluation done?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, one. Rey mild and one pretty severe.

We don't think we adults have it.

You think it's random?

Not the PP, But we have the same situation. It's probably genetic, but skipped us. Both my kids have blue eyes and we have brown. So I unofficially blame my blue eyed father who, looking back on it, almost certainly had ADHD and passed it to my children along with their eye color.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
DS9 has always been a handful. When he was young we saw mainly oppositional behavior and lack of emotional regulation, and "rambunctious" behavior that DH and others insisted was typical for a little boy.

I'm watching this thread with interest. I may have mild inattentive but manageable. I think my own mom has it worse. She wonders that, as well. DS9 has dyslexia and we're watching DS7 carefully. There is a link between dyslexia and ADHD. DS7 is a handful and he's getting to be too old for his lack of emotional regulation, rambunctiousness, etc., even though he has been, so far, perfectly behaved at school. As PP said, we're waiting for school to get progressively harder to see how he does. We've put the school and his teachers on notice that we should be in the observing phase.

[Anonymous]

My mom definitely has ADHD with hyper focus and all that. She also has a very high IQ and is internationally known for her work yet she never arrived anywhere on time. Never. My brother and I have formal diagnosis but aren’t that lucky in the IQ department, I think. I am perpetually underemployed, but my brother is doing well for himself despite never finishing college.