Are their any statistics about depression with international adopted kids versus biological kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not the adoption that’s the issue - it’s whatever circumstances led to the bio parents being unable or unwilling to parent the kids.

Do you know much about international adoption and how much of that is actually child trafficking?

WTF

[Anonymous]

WTF is right. We adopted from a Hague Convention country and there was zero inference of any kind of trafficking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I swear every Korean adopted kid I've met has been depressed or anxiety ridden. Is just Korean adoptees? Obvious can't be but Any statistics out there amongst cultures?

Yes there is reeearch that confirms it’s common in international adoptees.

How so?- versus domestic adopted kids.

I don’t know the research. But it’s got to be tough to know that your mother chose not to keep you. I know a number of teens that are struggling with this, mine included.

How do you know that this was truly the mother’s choice? How many first mothers are pressured and coerced and told repeatedly that the most living thing, the most selfless thing, the most courageous thing is to give up their child? That to parent a baby when they are young and poor is reckless and selfish and deluded? How many young women get matched with adoptive parents early in urge process, bond with them, and feel pressure and guilt if they follow their steal instinct to keep their baby? How many women feel unprepared, unsupported, terrified, and are told that the best thing they can do is hand over their baby?

Please try to understand the experience that your child’s mother may have had before surrendering her child. The loss. The trauma. The lack of support. It is really important for your child to understand the context of most adoptions so that your child will know that it is not a situation of not being “wanted”.

We're talking about international adoption here where kids live in orphanages and only a tiny percentage get adopted. The conditions can be abominable with food being scarce, attention non existent and discharge at age 16-18 with no money or vocational skills. Even in the best of conditions, kids can have multiple placements and don't reach their families for typically more than a year. No self respecting kid is going to believe that giving them up was a selfless and loving act. Add to it that things like prenatal drinking and court hearings where bio mom refuses contact with their institutionalized child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is right. We adopted from a Hague Convention country and there was zero inference of any kind of trafficking.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm a Koren adoptee and my unprofessional opinion is that many people who end up having to surrender a child probably have mental health issues to begin with that might lead to you being unable to care for your child. I think genetics play a big role.

With that said, I personally am a happy person, love my mom, dad and siblings and had a very fortunate upbringing. I always felt secure, lived and wanted. I now do foster respite care as my way of giving back to other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is right. We adopted from a Hague Convention country and there was zero inference of any kind of trafficking.

+1 Hague Convention may have made it harder to adopt due to extra paperwork and time, but it adds more certainty that the children weren't being identified for placement from traffickers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Koren adoptee and my unprofessional opinion is that many people who end up having to surrender a child probably have mental health issues to begin with that might lead to you being unable to care for your child. I think genetics play a big role.

With that said, I personally am a happy person, love my mom, dad and siblings and had a very fortunate upbringing. I always felt secure, lived and wanted. I now do foster respite care as my way of giving back to other kids.

+1, genetics play a big role in it and if the child has a good family fit. Also, some birthparents use drugs/alcohol and that can greatly impact things.

That's awesome you do respite care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear every Korean adopted kid I've met has been depressed or anxiety ridden. Is just Korean adoptees? Obvious can't be but Any statistics out there amongst cultures?

Yes there is reeearch that confirms it’s common in international adoptees.

How so?- versus domestic adopted kids.

I don’t know the research. But it’s got to be tough to know that your mother chose not to keep you. I know a number of teens that are struggling with this, mine included.

No, that is not true. And it is a ridiculous narrative. Adoption is much more complex than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Koren adoptee and my unprofessional opinion is that many people who end up having to surrender a child probably have mental health issues to begin with that might lead to you being unable to care for your child. I think genetics play a big role.

With that said, I personally am a happy person, love my mom, dad and siblings and had a very fortunate upbringing. I always felt secure, lived and wanted. I now do foster respite care as my way of giving back to other kids.

Thank you for your input. I’m glad your adoption was/ is a happy situation. Did you go through a period where you wanted to lookup your birthparents? Did you do a 23 and me inquiry both ancestry and health? Would you be open to meeting your birthparents? Although your life was well and privledged do you have anxiety and depression issues? Did you go through a terrible teen period- mom-dsughter hate - don’t tell me what to do phase?

[Anonymous]

Look at the stats—anxiety and depression are huge issues absent the adoption factor.