DH has been a nightmare all day
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Anonymous
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If this is a rare mood for him to be in, then I would likely chalk it up to him having a terrible day & try to keep my distance.
You do have every right to feel hurt however. If this behavior continues, I would most definitely attempt to discuss w/him what was truly bothering him. If he still gets defensive, moody + agitated, then he likely has an issue that likely has to do w/you personally which I feel he would be obligated to discuss w/you directly. |
Anonymous
| No sex in a while |
Anonymous
| He knows about OP's AP. |
Anonymous
| OP, is this unusual behavior for him? We need context or none of our feedback will have value to you. |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry your communication is suffering and not what you'd like it to be. In my own experience when these moments arise, I try to get behind my husband's eyes to see what he sees, and to imagine what it must feel like to be him when he's around me - how I influence him - how I turn him away, and how I draw him closer.
He must have something on his mind, and maybe it's been bothering him for quite some time. I don't know of any other way to close the gap between you both except to talk it through. Things might come up in conversation that need to be addressed for the sake of your marriage. I encourage you to arrange a time to discuss all the issues they weigh heavy on both of you. Getting things out in the open is critical, and the longer important feelings go unspoken the more hurt it can create. I hope and pray you find the answers you are looking for. |
Anonymous
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OP, you are absolutely right. He's being mean to you - some of the PP answers are mean-spirited as well. Something's bugging him. Remove yourself from the room or the conversation when he's being unkind at the moment and, as others said, schedule a time later to talk.
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Anonymous
| Agree with giving him space. |
Anonymous
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he is stressed out or angry about something in his life and letting it out on you. not cool.
tell him he sounds angry about something, what is it? Be prepared for him to vent about you and continue to blame you, you still might not know the actual thing he is angry about (neither might he - work, his parents, finances), but at least you'll have more insight and info into how psycho his is or not. then proceed accordingly. if he's a jerk, end it. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
+1000 |
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| Too much porn |
Anonymous
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One day? give him space and let it pass. He knows he is being an ass, at some level.
If it continues, set aside time to talk. "You seem really short and stressed out lately, what is going on?" Don't make it about *you* but about him. Try to figure it out. also, yeah, has sex been more infrequent? If we haven't done it in a while, DH becomes short tempered. |
Anonymous
| Smother him with love until he's happy. |