Is it ok to hide the guest list on evite?

[Anonymous]

You are within your rights to hide it but I always appreciate when people show it. DS is a bit shy, and for drop off parties it makes me more comfortable to see that a few other kids he knows are attending. Otherwise I have fears about him standing in a corner alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This kind of bugs me. If people I'm closest to are going, I'll make more of an effort to go.

Perhaps I'm in the minority here, but I find it rude for someone to base their attendance at a kid's birthday party on the rest of the guest list.

I actually do exactly the opposite as PP. (I think PP is being kind of a mean girl by only going to a kids' birthday party if her friends are going.) If I see that a party is not well attended, I'll make an extra effort to go. We had a party for a kid that my child didn't know particularly well, and I saw that there were not a lot of kids that had RSVPed yes. (I think there was a big sports tournament that day or something like that.) It was a little inconvenient for us, but I worked out schedule so we could go. I turned out that basically no one showed up for the party, so I was really glad we had gone. The boys are now pretty good friends.
The guest list also helps with coordinating car pools, which allows some kids to go if their parents might have a conflict.
For those reasons, I like it when the guest list is shown. I don't think anyone will judge you for a poor attendance given the time of year. (Anyone that judged you for a poor attendance at any time of year is sort of a jerk.)

I do the same. If it's inconvenient to go and I would otherwise say "no," but then notice that a lot of people are RSVPing "no," I make sure DC gets there.

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Sorry, miscounted, I guess I am 2.

[Anonymous]

I never understood why people hid them until now. People actually rsvp no, if they see others are rsvping no? That is cruel.

I like to see it because it helps my son mentally prepare (will it be kids he knows or not). I show it. But now I am suspicious of the people who look at it several times before saying no.

[Anonymous]

I personally would find it shady if the guest list was hidden.

It would likely make me question why.

[Anonymous]

OP, I do something in between, but I use paperless post so I don't know evite as well (or if this is an option). The people attending are visible to everyone invited, but the declines and guest list are not.

[Anonymous]

Of course you hide it! How else can you add the b and c list guests without them knowing???

[Anonymous]

If I see low attendance I make a greater effort to be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I do something in between, but I use paperless post so I don't know evite as well (or if this is an option). The people attending are visible to everyone invited, but the declines and guest list are not.

Paperless post is the jam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine but annoying because parents can’t carpool. It’s awkward to ask each other if they received the invite and everyone ends up driving.

You can't drive your own kid? Why so lazy?
My kids are now 19/17 and I have never once carpooled.

[Anonymous]

It’s annoying. How do you arrange carpools and stuff?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fine but annoying because parents can’t carpool. It’s awkward to ask each other if they received the invite and everyone ends up driving.

You can't drive your own kid? Why so lazy?
My kids are now 19/17 and I have never once carpooled.

That’s because you’re a freak .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s fine but annoying because parents can’t carpool. It’s awkward to ask each other if they received the invite and everyone ends up driving.

You can't drive your own kid? Why so lazy?
My kids are now 19/17 and I have never once carpooled.

That’s because you’re a freak .

No,I take care of my own kids. Why does that bother you so much?

[Anonymous]

Is it really hard to drive your own kid to a party?

[Anonymous]

It is absolutely fine to hide the guest list. About 50% of the parties my son has been invited to in ES have had hidden lists. But like some above posters, if I see there will be a poor turnout, I go out of my way to make sure my son attends. Also, I personally like to know who is invited for many reasons:
1) to arrange carpools
2) so we can avoid accidentally mentioning the party to someone who hasn’t been invited
3) if the guest list is very small, I will know that we should reciprocate that invite when my son’s bday rolls around. We keep his parties small but will invite a child who considered my son a close enough friend to invite to his own small party.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This kind of bugs me. If people I'm closest to are going, I'll make more of an effort to go.

Perhaps I'm in the minority here, but I find it rude for someone to base their attendance at a kid's birthday party on the rest of the guest list.

Totally agree. Smacks of insincerity and insecurity.