This is what my soon to be ex-husband sent me

[Anonymous]

He’s immature.

Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you both still have feelings for the other and you have kids...you should be trying to work it out. Not that the kids need to know that.

He is your husband and the parent of your children and he owes you money? If you were a husband saying your wife owes you money, people would be all over you.

Your exchange is confusing. Your feigned confusion, his feigned autocorrect. Neither of you address things head on, both playing games.

Did you consider that one of the very first steps in the divorce process is the court ordering support for the children? He probably was ordered to pay CS and hasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well does he want me back?

“Want to be with you” could just mean he wants to have sex with you, not necessarily still be married to you.

Yeah, my first thought was that it's a booty call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t want to pay up and thinks he can put it off by getting back together for a bit.

+1.

Men who are serious about getting back together fix their issues. Men who aren’t serious send stupid emails/texts like your ex did.

[Anonymous]

OP here, he does pay alimony and child support. He has always paid on time and has never missed a payment. We are in the final stages of divorce.

It might have been a booty call but he is pretty direct so this is why I'm so confused.

[Anonymous]

If this is how you communicate, you are both too immature to be married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is how you communicate, you are both too immature to be married.

Seriously. That exchange looked like it was written by a pair of defective robots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is how you communicate, you are both too immature to be married.

Well normally we communicate well. We were married for 24 years. I'm thinking it must have been a mistake on his part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kinda late in the game. I do still love him but it would really confuse the kids. Plus I don't know if I still trust him. He owes me a ton of money.

Owes you money from when you were in the marriage?

[Anonymous]

Holy shit...24 years is a long time to be married. Did you get married super young because your kids are still minors?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why this is such a big deal. If you are interested in salvaging the relationship set up a time to discuss it with him. If you are not, then ignore it. Either way, you shouldn't have substantive discussions regarding the relationship end of things over e-mail (as contrasted with custody and other such discussions which are better handled via e-mail).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, he does pay alimony and child support. He has always paid on time and has never missed a payment. We are in the final stages of divorce.

It might have been a booty call but he is pretty direct so this is why I'm so confused.

What does he owe you then?

[Anonymous]

We owes me half of our business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why this is such a big deal. If you are interested in salvaging the relationship set up a time to discuss it with him. If you are not, then ignore it. Either way, you shouldn't have substantive discussions regarding the relationship end of things over e-mail (as contrasted with custody and other such discussions which are better handled via e-mail).

This!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

He put out feelers. You kicked him down, so the autocorrect was his way of saving face or ego or whatever.

You read what he said, so I’m not sure why you kept insisting on him to make it clearer. I’m assuming things are tenuous at them moment, at best. If you felt the same way, you could have responded in kind (as your English seems to be fine), but you decided to make him feel stupid first and then to put him on th spot.

And with that, I agreee.. your marriage really is over.