S/O Is your affair partner married or single?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you having affairs and cheating on your husbands?

Are you mostly looking for sex or an emotional connection or both?

I was looking for an emotional connection. With that emotional connection came good sex. So now both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you having affairs and cheating on your husbands?

Are you mostly looking for sex or an emotional connection or both?

Sex. My AP is hot and a lot younger than me. We have great sexual chemistry and I know it isn’t going to last but it is a fun distraction.

[Anonymous]

So as a married man, what do I have to do to make sure my wife doesn't feel the need to cheat on me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So as a married man, what do I have to do to make sure my wife doesn't feel the need to cheat on me?

Listen to her
Don't prioritize your job over her
Be a feminist
Don't dismiss her feelings or get defensive when she tries to tell you something


This is a difficult question, obviously, because every situation is different, and the reasons people cheat are different. I mean, they all stem back to the cheaters and their selfish behavior and inability to cope with whatever is thrown at them. Insecurity? Probably. But my inability to share my feelings with my husband probably began when I realized that it didn't matter what I said because he didn't hear what I was saying he didn't try to resolve the problem. He would dismiss the problem as a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So as a married man, what do I have to do to make sure my wife doesn't feel the need to cheat on me?

Divorce her beforehand. She will stop having sex with you eventually.

[Anonymous]

Huh? Last response makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you having affairs and cheating on your husbands?

Are you mostly looking for sex or an emotional connection or both?

Started as an emotional connection with an acquaintance. We were both feeling alone in our marriages and would email in the wee hours of the morning when we couldn't sleep. It felt like a lifeline for both of us; I guess that made it an emotional affair. It was very intimate. We eventually admitted we were attracted to each other. We slept together within a few weeks of that and it was the best sex of our lives.

So now it's emotional and physical. We've become very close, talk to each other daily, and have this mind-blowing, unprecedented sex life.

So- all of it. Sex, intimacy, friendship, support.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, sounds like if I have a happy relationship with my DW she is not going to seek out these emotional connections with others

I also hope I screened well enough in marrying her to not end up with someone who needs just straight up sex with other people for no good reason

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, sounds like if I have a happy relationship with my DW she is not going to seek out these emotional connections with others

I also hope I screened well enough in marrying her to not end up with someone who needs just straight up sex with other people for no good reason

My husband and I had a great relationship -- until we didn't. I mean it. It was very very good. We went through a lot of hard things together. But then ... one particular thing pushed me over the edge and I didn't/couldn't/wouldn't get past it and instead of turning to my husband I turned away. And eventually to somebody else. So, be vigilant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, sounds like if I have a happy relationship with my DW she is not going to seek out these emotional connections with others

I also hope I screened well enough in marrying her to not end up with someone who needs just straight up sex with other people for no good reason

My husband and I had a great relationship -- until we didn't. I mean it. It was very very good. We went through a lot of hard things together. But then ... one particular thing pushed me over the edge and I didn't/couldn't/wouldn't get past it and instead of turning to my husband I turned away. And eventually to somebody else. So, be vigilant.

What was the thing?

Why not divorce?

[Anonymous]

^ +1, also curious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So as a married man, what do I have to do to make sure my wife doesn't feel the need to cheat on me?

Listen to her
Don't prioritize your job over her
Be a feminist
Don't dismiss her feelings or get defensive when she tries to tell you something

you

SHITTIEST ADVICE EVER.

Hint: never, never heed female advice about how to deal with women.

You can't make sure she won't cheat. Make sure you are attractive, and if she cheats, divorce her and get a younger woman. That is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you having affairs and cheating on your husbands?

Are you mostly looking for sex or an emotional connection or both?

Started as an emotional connection with an acquaintance. We were both feeling alone in our marriages and would email in the wee hours of the morning when we couldn't sleep. It felt like a lifeline for both of us; I guess that made it an emotional affair. It was very intimate. We eventually admitted we were attracted to each other. We slept together within a few weeks of that and it was the best sex of our lives.

So now it's emotional and physical. We've become very close, talk to each other daily, and have this mind-blowing, unprecedented sex life.

So- all of it. Sex, intimacy, friendship, support.

Why not be together then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married but single now. I moved out of state and he comes to visit every 3-4 months.

And I’m sure you’re “happy”

NP. You play the cards you're dealt, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you having affairs and cheating on your husbands?

Are you mostly looking for sex or an emotional connection or both?

Started as an emotional connection with an acquaintance. We were both feeling alone in our marriages and would email in the wee hours of the morning when we couldn't sleep. It felt like a lifeline for both of us; I guess that made it an emotional affair. It was very intimate. We eventually admitted we were attracted to each other. We slept together within a few weeks of that and it was the best sex of our lives.

So now it's emotional and physical. We've become very close, talk to each other daily, and have this mind-blowing, unprecedented sex life.

So- all of it. Sex, intimacy, friendship, support.

Why not be together then?

Maybe we will someday. We have lives and histories with our spouses. There's no question for either of us that we would have been best together if we'd met before. But whether we can turn many lives upside down is another question.

Meanwhile, we just love each other, bring each other joy, and ferl blessed we get to feel this way.