Another round of IVF or move on to donor eggs? (second kid)

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Thanks to all for your replies. It's helpful to hear about others experiences. My partner is 45. When we started this whole process FOREVER ago, it seemed to make sense to use my eggs because I am younger. Obviously, we now wish we had frozen some of her eggs as well when we started. So much of this process involves realizing stuff too late!

That said, I feel lucky to have one child...and, if we have another with donor eggs, they'll be genetic half siblings through the sperm donor. Science is nuts!

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Anonymous wrote:PP who just had #2 here. I don't know about GW MFA, but we were at Dominion and they had their own donors. We got a bunch of background info on them to pick from. One thing to think about is how you feel about the potential for lots of half siblings out there. Some banks the donors may provide eggs to many individuals, some places do a shared risk where you split a donor cycle eggs with one or two other couples, and some (like ours) you can get all of the donors eggs from the cycle. Cost varies depending on which route you take.

It's really concerning that egg donations are not mandated to be fully open for this reason that has health as well as ethical consideration. Half-siblings from various families could meet and unintentionally fall in love in future and have their own children with genetic defects.

That potential has been there for many decades via sperm donation, as well, you know.

Luckily the research supports “talk & tell” vs the taboo hush hush.

OP: If you have the resources, do one more IVF and then if that doesn’t work know that you’re u did everything in your power and move on to DE.

Donor sibling registry. Kids by DE or DS can register and find siblings. Typically there can be more genetic siblings where DS is used. Good agencies will tell u how many there are already. At least agencies for DE. I did DE, so I don’t know much about DS. I do think open donations are better and am doing that, but there are resources for kids. People thinking about it seriously should do a counseling session that brings up the typical concerns of parents and the kids. It’s very helpful. The agency I used requires it.