Wife's bad breath, doesn't shower enough

[Anonymous]

Get her a tongue scraper. It was a game changer for me.

[Anonymous]

Does she care about her looks in general?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

First the problem was she showers every other day, and now it's that she doesn't shower twice a day? It sounds like you have some squeamishness around natural body odors if she showered in the morning but you'd like her to "freshen up" again before sex, and you do the same. That's overkill.

I think it depends on their daily routine. If their intimacy includes him going down on her (or vice versa), I'd prefer if my partner clean up if they've recently taken a dump. Otherwise, ugh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Halitosis is a treatable disorder. Showering every other day is better for your skin in the winter. The answer to your question is: with empathy and an open mind.

WTF...please don't excuse this woman's poor hygiene.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

You expect her to shower any time there may be a chance of intimacy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

You expect her to shower any time there may be a chance of intimacy?

wouldn't that be nice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

You expect her to shower any time there may be a chance of intimacy?

wouldn't that be nice?

well, sure. and if you expect that, then how about shower together and just do the deed there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

OP, assuming your wife is not creating this situation as a way to avoid intimacy with you (which would be a whole different topic), then one way you can solve this problem is to wait until she is clean before sex and then really rock her world. Tell her how smooth and fresh is feels etc. etc. If she is still enjoying sex with you, she will probably naturally be motivated to start cleaning up more before bed.

[Anonymous]

What is her lifestyle like OP?

Is she a busy Stay-at-Home mother to young children?

Does she work full-time AND do most of the cooking + cleaning??

Perhaps she doesn’t have the time or inclination to bathe daily.
Once you get older, a daily shower doesn’t seem as huge a priority as when you were younger.
Your hair gets drier as does your skin.

Plus these days, people are encouraged not to shampoo their hair daily as well as not shower daily due to concerns of drying out the skin & it’s natural oils, etc.

Or like other PPs mentioned, not showering daily is often a sign of being depressed.

[Anonymous]

I'm a non-depressed, professional woman and shower every other day (more often in the summer).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a non-depressed, professional woman and shower every other day (more often in the summer).

+1

I do, however, sometimes shower twice a day in the summer. And will at minimum freshen up my lady-parts before potential intimate interactions. (even if i have to say... mm hold that thought - i'll brb)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do I broach the subject of my wife's frequently bad breath and every-other-day shower habits affecting our intimacy? Honestly, sometimes I simply have to turn my head lying in bed. Also, keeping it clean and trim downstairs would be nice for other activities...

Is this real? B/c it sounds like an exact reversal of complaints women have of their men.

I think it's a troll. The tipoff is the language used to describe sex. Men generally don't use timid euphemisms like "intimacy" and "relations" and don't refer to female genitals as "down there."

[Anonymous]

Get a bidet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often DOES she shower? It's very rare for non-depressed professional women to not shower daily.

OP here. She probably showers first thing in the morning MOST days. Thing is, she never makes any effort to clean up before potential relations occur. The other day we went to bed early, which usually portends intimacy. When I get close she forewarns against anything getting to intense, as she hasn't showered that day. If this were only occasionally, it wouldn't be a big deal, but is it too much to rinse off in the shower before heading to bed every now and then. I certainly do...

OP, assuming your wife is not creating this situation as a way to avoid intimacy with you (which would be a whole different topic), then one way you can solve this problem is to wait until she is clean before sex and then really rock her world. Tell her how smooth and fresh is feels etc. etc. If she is still enjoying sex with you, she will probably naturally be motivated to start cleaning up more before bed.

I thought this might be the case. "potential" relations ... less than "actual" relations, in part because she is keeping dirty to avoid.

[Anonymous]

Hi Op,

Here are some suggestions that might help:

1. You schedule all your doctor's appointments and dentist appointments together. That way a professional can identify "problems" and leaves the burden off of you.
2. Set up monthly wax appointments for both of you or schedule a wax and massage for just her.

Here are two places in DC that I visit:
http://www.capitalwaxing.com/

https://unwindwellness.com/


2. Suggest that you bathe and shower together. A hot tub is really useful here.

3. Visit Lush cosmetics or L'Occitane for bath products. I highly suggest LUSh because they cater towards bathing products that smell amazing. Visit for yourself and then purchase your wife a gift card and flowers. Your excuse can be "just because" and "I want to pamper you"

4. If she just had a baby or major surgery recognize that hormones can be thrown off balance.

5. If all else fails be lightly honest. DON'T say honey you smell horrible. Instead say: Honey I'd like to have sex more frequently or explore different areas of the body in order to do that we need to shower before and after.