Anyone considering private/home school due to mass shootings?

[Anonymous]

My former private school at gun incidents in the 80s. Unless they have super duper security, it won't be any better and may be worse than public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no, I have not changed anything due to school violence, but I was thinking today that my kids' private in Los Angles has security, and those guys are (super-nice) bad-asses with guns, former LAPD.

I was contemplating taking them boxes of See's Candies (west-coast chocolates) today to thank them because I do believe they stand in the way of this danger and are trained, equipped, and committed to stop anything like this. Of course nothing is perfect, but certainly there are easier targets and harder targets, and the idea is to be a harder target.

In our old school, with no dedicated security (just a security company, like we have) parents raised $ to replace the doors with bulletproof doors. It is a Catholic, and it's tricky because in our Archdiocese (not east coast) has to spread the wealth around all their schools, so politically it's hard to get any kind of major upgrade. So the parents just went outside the system and raised the money themselves; and we have some contractor dads who got good prices and could install. There are things you can do, OP.

Like fighting to make this country safer for everybody?

https://momsdemandaction.org/

http://www.bradycampaign.org/

https://www.csgv.org/

I applaud this, but how have things changed since Columbine? We need to work on ALL fronts, and I'm trying to help OP deal with HER school

[Anonymous]

Privates are no more safe

[Anonymous]

OK, my kids go to public school, but I would think privates would be safer-- teachers know everyone and it's kind of hard to be a total weirdo and get in. The types doing these shootings don't seem like the type that would be in the pool at Sidwell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, my kids go to public school, but I would think privates would be safer-- teachers know everyone and it's kind of hard to be a total weirdo and get in. The types doing these shootings don't seem like the type that would be in the pool at Sidwell.

Uhhhhh... The majority of the time the shooter is not actually a student at the school. Please tell me you know that.

[Anonymous]

What’s the difference between private and UMC public districts? This is a wealthy kind of town — as were Newtown and Colombine. Weird kids can be anywhere. Come on — at your school, didn’t you think there were 1-2 real weirdos — there are at every school. And at both UMC publics and privates, these kids have cash in their pockets and can buy weaponry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no, I have not changed anything due to school violence, but I was thinking today that my kids' private in Los Angles has security, and those guys are (super-nice) bad-asses with guns, former LAPD.

I was contemplating taking them boxes of See's Candies (west-coast chocolates) today to thank them because I do believe they stand in the way of this danger and are trained, equipped, and committed to stop anything like this. Of course nothing is perfect, but certainly there are easier targets and harder targets, and the idea is to be a harder target.

In our old school, with no dedicated security (just a security company, like we have) parents raised $ to replace the doors with bulletproof doors. It is a Catholic, and it's tricky because in our Archdiocese (not east coast) has to spread the wealth around all their schools, so politically it's hard to get any kind of major upgrade. So the parents just went outside the system and raised the money themselves; and we have some contractor dads who got good prices and could install. There are things you can do, OP.

Useless and just designed to make you feel better. Unless of course all the kids are going through TSA Airport type screenings prior to entering the building.

NP - not useless bc someone tries to shoot their way in — a former cop shoots them first. Don’t have of you work for the govt - this is how it works to secure govt buildings and at my courthouse last summer, our security (also retired cops) DID shoot someone causing harm.

And at this point, put kids thru TSA screening - what’s the big deal? It doesn’t add more than 20 min like getting thru an airport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, my kids go to public school, but I would think privates would be safer-- teachers know everyone and it's kind of hard to be a total weirdo and get in. The types doing these shootings don't seem like the type that would be in the pool at Sidwell.

Give it a rest with Sidwell. Do you not believe people/kids change? You get admitted to Sidwell at 4-5. For all we know he was a really normal little kid. He and his bro are adopted, stay home mom who doted on them. He’d likely be normal enough to get into any private at that age. Then at7-8 his dad dies — maybe that’s when he turned into a really mean troublemaker. You’re kidding yourself if you think Sidwell and the like are kicking out an elementary schooler after that kind of family trauma. They’d let him stay in the corner for the next 10 yrs to be “compassionate.” And without anyone putting it altogether he becomes meaner, picks up a weapon fetish and hooks up with a militia. The expensiveness of your school or your home isn’t the antidote here. Home schooling is but what will the kids do for college and what if they can’t land work from home jobs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, my kids go to public school, but I would think privates would be safer-- teachers know everyone and it's kind of hard to be a total weirdo and get in. The types doing these shootings don't seem like the type that would be in the pool at Sidwell.

Give it a rest with Sidwell. Do you not believe people/kids change? You get admitted to Sidwell at 4-5. For all we know he was a really normal little kid. He and his bro are adopted, stay home mom who doted on them. He’d likely be normal enough to get into any private at that age. Then at 7-8 his dad dies — maybe that’s when he turned into a really mean troublemaker. You’re kidding yourself if you think Sidwell and the like are kicking out an elementary schooler after that kind of family trauma. They’d let him stay in the corner for the next 10 yrs to be “compassionate.” And without anyone putting it altogether he becomes meaner, picks up a weapon fetish and hooks up with a militia. The expensiveness of your school or your home isn’t the antidote here. Home schooling is but what will the kids do for college and what if they can’t land work from home jobs?

+1
Private schools might be quicker to kick a kid out, but the shooter in Florida was a former student. So even if they kick him out, he comes back for revenge. Private school is not magic. There are plenty of troubled kids in private schools.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is more likely to die in a car accident. Do you plan to never allow them in a car?

Agree with previous poster, work towards gun control. The US is the only developed country with this problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Privates are no more safe

True. It just takes one sick student...

[Anonymous]

If you are willing to spend private school tuition,
Donate it to a gun control politician instead!

[Anonymous]

School shootings aren't the only or even main reason why we've decided to homeschool, and mass shootings could happen anywhere, but on days like this I'm definitely relieved that my kids aren't going to traditional school.

Until they ban automatic and semi-automatic weapons, I really think the situation is going to continue to get worse.

P.S. To the PP who was anxious about college with homeschooling, I'll say FWIW that we're not worried about that at all. We have PhD/Masters ourselves and absolutely intend for our kids to go to college, and a highly rated one at that. You just need to keep that in mind as your plan to make sure you check all the boxes and do the appropriate prep along the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no, I have not changed anything due to school violence, but I was thinking today that my kids' private in Los Angles has security, and those guys are (super-nice) bad-asses with guns, former LAPD.

I was contemplating taking them boxes of See's Candies (west-coast chocolates) today to thank them because I do believe they stand in the way of this danger and are trained, equipped, and committed to stop anything like this. Of course nothing is perfect, but certainly there are easier targets and harder targets, and the idea is to be a harder target.

In our old school, with no dedicated security (just a security company, like we have) parents raised $ to replace the doors with bulletproof doors. It is a Catholic, and it's tricky because in our Archdiocese (not east coast) has to spread the wealth around all their schools, so politically it's hard to get any kind of major upgrade. So the parents just went outside the system and raised the money themselves; and we have some contractor dads who got good prices and could install. There are things you can do, OP.

Useless and just designed to make you feel better. Unless of course all the kids are going through TSA Airport type screenings prior to entering the building.

NP - not useless bc someone tries to shoot their way in — a former cop shoots them first. Don’t have of you work for the govt - this is how it works to secure govt buildings and at my courthouse last summer, our security (also retired cops) DID shoot someone causing harm.

And at this point, put kids thru TSA screening - what’s the big deal? It doesn’t add more than 20 min like getting thru an airport.

The courthouse has metal detectors and you go through security to get in. Government blds, and my office bldg, same AND you have to badge in. That's not the case at the school, guaranteed. I also doubt there is only one point of entry. Bottom line, security is not the answer. More guns and more controls are not the answer.

FEWER GUNS and STRICTER access are the answer.

Good god, just look at the countries that had ONE mass shooting and clamped down. Voila, no more. We have had HUNDREDS and nothing has been done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think private schools are immune to gun violence. It's only a matter of time..

We can't keep are kids in a bubble and they are more likely to die in a car accident then a school shooting. I know how you feel, the same thoughts run through my head, but we need to think with a level head.

This. I hugged my DC a lot tighter at drop-off today and my heart ached for the families in Florida but I also knew that I couldn't wrap DC in a bubble no matter how much I wanted.