Third trimester misery vent

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Anonymous wrote:33 weeks. I fell down the stairs (thankfully baby is okay and that is what matters) but the bruising on my tailbone and back are killing me especially since the baby is pushing on the bruises.

I’m so sorry. That sounds just miserable!

[Anonymous]

Thank you ladies! I’m One and Done. But as my little guy gets older, baby fever is hitting me HARD. Reading this really helps me not romanticized pregnancy.

Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:33 weeks. I fell down the stairs (thankfully baby is okay and that is what matters) but the bruising on my tailbone and back are killing me especially since the baby is pushing on the bruises.

I’m so sorry. That sounds just miserable!

thanks! Getting up and down and out of the car is the worst part!

And I'm still fuming about DH's friend who keeps asking things like, "tell me when the baby is getting close so I can be there in the room when he arrives!" WTF. I do NOT know you that well. I don't even want you visiting in the hospital or during the first few weeks because I don't know you that well and you're a high-maintenance, annoying guest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:33 weeks. I fell down the stairs (thankfully baby is okay and that is what matters) but the bruising on my tailbone and back are killing me especially since the baby is pushing on the bruises.

I’m so sorry. That sounds just miserable!

thanks! Getting up and down and out of the car is the worst part!

And I'm still fuming about DH's friend who keeps asking things like, "tell me when the baby is getting close so I can be there in the room when he arrives!" WTF. I do NOT know you that well. I don't even want you visiting in the hospital or during the first few weeks because I don't know you that well and you're a high-maintenance, annoying guest.

Your DH just needs to tell him " No, I like my life..." or "WTF?! Nobody wants you there!"

What an idiot!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:33 weeks. I fell down the stairs (thankfully baby is okay and that is what matters) but the bruising on my tailbone and back are killing me especially since the baby is pushing on the bruises.

I’m so sorry. That sounds just miserable!

thanks! Getting up and down and out of the car is the worst part!

And I'm still fuming about DH's friend who keeps asking things like, "tell me when the baby is getting close so I can be there in the room when he arrives!" WTF. I do NOT know you that well. I don't even want you visiting in the hospital or during the first few weeks because I don't know you that well and you're a high-maintenance, annoying guest.

Your DH just needs to tell him " No, I like my life..." or "WTF?! Nobody wants you there!"

What an idiot!!

I would never even hang out with him without my DH and haven't even known him long but he says things like "I'm the baby's uncle! I'm like the mom's brother!" Which is insulting to my REAL brother, but that's beside the point. I'm afraid he'll try to do this at the hospital and show up claiming to by my brother. Is there any way I can tell the hospital not to let in guests outside of a certain list of names?

[Anonymous]

Preach! 27 weeks here, and I’m so uncomfortable all of the time. I’m pretty sure I’ve developed vulvar varicose veins...cause yeah, that’s a topic I want to have with anyone! Every time I bend over the force of blood in my head makes it feel like I’m going to explode. My torso is short, so sitting is uncomfortable unless I’m semi-reclined. Standing is uncomfortable because pressure...

I’ve had a resurgence of nausea/vomiting in the last week too. For those going through that I can not highly recommend enough advocating for yourself to get some diclegis (but then you have to really take it systematically for it to do it’s job) and zofran if you are actually vomiting. I’m had under medicated hyperemesis in my first pregnancy, and this pregnancy is a breeze by comparison thanks to a better support network of symptom control. I’ll take all the aches and pains over vomiting all day any time.

[Anonymous]

This is how nature makes sure you want to push that giant melon head out of your vagina.

Sorry 3rd trimester ladies. Hang in there! The sweet newborn snuggles aren't far away!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:33 weeks. I fell down the stairs (thankfully baby is okay and that is what matters) but the bruising on my tailbone and back are killing me especially since the baby is pushing on the bruises.

I’m so sorry. That sounds just miserable!

thanks! Getting up and down and out of the car is the worst part!

And I'm still fuming about DH's friend who keeps asking things like, "tell me when the baby is getting close so I can be there in the room when he arrives!" WTF. I do NOT know you that well. I don't even want you visiting in the hospital or during the first few weeks because I don't know you that well and you're a high-maintenance, annoying guest.

Your DH just needs to tell him " No, I like my life..." or "WTF?! Nobody wants you there!"

What an idiot!!

I would never even hang out with him without my DH and haven't even known him long but he says things like "I'm the baby's uncle! I'm like the mom's brother!" Which is insulting to my REAL brother, but that's beside the point. I'm afraid he'll try to do this at the hospital and show up claiming to by my brother. Is there any way I can tell the hospital not to let in guests outside of a certain list of names?

That's so weird. Is he good friends with your husband? Is he socially awkward in other contexts? If he's not a good friend, I think you guys should just tell him he's being incredibly inappropriate and is not welcome visiting the baby in the first couple of months of its life. People need to get shut down when they are THIS out of line.

For what it's worth, I had one of these too, and I just gave him major side-eye any time he said anything inappropriate. Didn't invite him to meet the baby when she arrived. Didn't send a personal announcement of any kind. He found out on Facebook like every other acquaintance.

[Anonymous]

I'm 39w6d -- and at my appointment yesterday the doctor didn't see much progress in my dilatation and told me to make an appointment for next week. I cried.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:33 weeks. I fell down the stairs (thankfully baby is okay and that is what matters) but the bruising on my tailbone and back are killing me especially since the baby is pushing on the bruises.

I’m so sorry. That sounds just miserable!

thanks! Getting up and down and out of the car is the worst part!

And I'm still fuming about DH's friend who keeps asking things like, "tell me when the baby is getting close so I can be there in the room when he arrives!" WTF. I do NOT know you that well. I don't even want you visiting in the hospital or during the first few weeks because I don't know you that well and you're a high-maintenance, annoying guest.

Your DH just needs to tell him " No, I like my life..." or "WTF?! Nobody wants you there!"

What an idiot!!

I would never even hang out with him without my DH and haven't even known him long but he says things like "I'm the baby's uncle! I'm like the mom's brother!" Which is insulting to my REAL brother, but that's beside the point. I'm afraid he'll try to do this at the hospital and show up claiming to by my brother. Is there any way I can tell the hospital not to let in guests outside of a certain list of names?

That's so weird. Is he good friends with your husband? Is he socially awkward in other contexts? If he's not a good friend, I think you guys should just tell him he's being incredibly inappropriate and is not welcome visiting the baby in the first couple of months of its life. People need to get shut down when they are THIS out of line.

For what it's worth, I had one of these too, and I just gave him major side-eye any time he said anything inappropriate. Didn't invite him to meet the baby when she arrived. Didn't send a personal announcement of any kind. He found out on Facebook like every other acquaintance.

He's socially awkward and the kind of person who will not offer to help or bring anything but will show up at Labor and Delivery with a 6 pack of beer for himself.

He's friends with DH but not a best friend (even though he probably claims to be like he claims to be my "brother"). DH has never met his family, for example, even though they are local.

[Anonymous]

PP here...and he's not even the only one. Another one of DH's friends wants to come in and stay with us from out of state right after the baby is born because he wants to go to go on a roadtrip with DH and he's like "Oh I'll just stay with you guys and the baby! And then DH and I will just go away for a few days!"

DH is one of those people that people flock to because he's super personable--everyone wants to be friends with him. But a lot of these people just don't get it.

[Anonymous]

I’m 39+ weeks. The only real positive I can say is that the baby has dropped down enough that the heartburn Has gone away and eating a normal amount of food doesn’t make me feel as horribly full. I injured myself though and can’t walk, which has been really really crappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here...and he's not even the only one. Another one of DH's friends wants to come in and stay with us from out of state right after the baby is born because he wants to go to go on a roadtrip with DH and he's like "Oh I'll just stay with you guys and the baby! And then DH and I will just go away for a few days!"

DH is one of those people that people flock to because he's super personable--everyone wants to be friends with him. But a lot of these people just don't get it.

A road trip!?!? What is wrong with these people?

Possible solution. Send the road trip buddy and the “I want to be there for the birth” Buddy on a road trip together before you go into labor

Also, for what it’s worth - and I hope you don’t need to resort to this - but the nurses at sibley and presumably other hospitals will absolutely tell visitors that they can’t come in and have to wait in the waiting rooms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP here...and he's not even the only one. Another one of DH's friends wants to come in and stay with us from out of state right after the baby is born because he wants to go to go on a roadtrip with DH and he's like "Oh I'll just stay with you guys and the baby! And then DH and I will just go away for a few days!"

DH is one of those people that people flock to because he's super personable--everyone wants to be friends with him. But a lot of these people just don't get it.

A road trip!?!? What is wrong with these people?

Possible solution. Send the road trip buddy and the “I want to be there for the birth” Buddy on a road trip together before you go into labor

Also, for what it’s worth - and I hope you don’t need to resort to this - but the nurses at sibley and presumably other hospitals will absolutely tell visitors that they can’t come in and have to wait in the waiting rooms.

Thanks for the support, everyone. I was afraid I was just flipping out so it's good to see that my reaction is justified.

The hard part is my own family won't be there since one of my parents is extremely ill and needs constant care so it's extra frustrating and infuriating for me that these people are acting like they can take the place of my family -- referring to themselves as uncles/brothers, etc. when they've never even met my real family or made an effort to ask about them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP here...and he's not even the only one. Another one of DH's friends wants to come in and stay with us from out of state right after the baby is born because he wants to go to go on a roadtrip with DH and he's like "Oh I'll just stay with you guys and the baby! And then DH and I will just go away for a few days!"

DH is one of those people that people flock to because he's super personable--everyone wants to be friends with him. But a lot of these people just don't get it.

A road trip!?!? What is wrong with these people?

Possible solution. Send the road trip buddy and the “I want to be there for the birth” Buddy on a road trip together before you go into labor

Also, for what it’s worth - and I hope you don’t need to resort to this - but the nurses at sibley and presumably other hospitals will absolutely tell visitors that they can’t come in and have to wait in the waiting rooms.

Thanks for the support, everyone. I was afraid I was just flipping out so it's good to see that my reaction is justified.

The hard part is my own family won't be there since one of my parents is extremely ill and needs constant care so it's extra frustrating and infuriating for me that these people are acting like they can take the place of my family -- referring to themselves as uncles/brothers, etc. when they've never even met my real family or made an effort to ask about them.

That is really hard OP, I’m sorry to hear it. It’s always been a pet peeve of mine when people toss out the “aunt” and “uncle” titles loosely, and I can’t inagine how hurtful it would be in your circumstances. Stay strong and make sure DH is saying NO when he needs to!! And congrats on your growing family!