S/O How often does your family & your inlaws interact?

[Anonymous]

My MIL is a big proponent of getting together with my family whenever possible. My parents are low-key and always open to getting together, though they would never initiate such get togethers. My parents live in Atlanta, and my in-laws 25 minutes away, so they've only gotten together maybe three times since we moved to DC five years ago.

[Anonymous]

Never

[Anonymous]

Everyone is local so we do things Throughout the year. Together for all holidays (mom and mil have split them). Toddlers birthday we do a small family party, my or dhs birthday and random cookouts that we host. I’m and only and dhs sister lives far away. We spend a lot of time with each set of parents separately so they can get their fill of baby time and their own kid time. Works for me since everyone is cognizant of time constraints and is flexible.

[Anonymous]

Rarely. Both families are nice to each other, but the backgrounds are sufficiently different I don't think either feels comfortable. Thankfully, the recognition of same is more-less mutual.

[Anonymous]

2-3 times a year.

[Anonymous]

Every 2 years or so (nobody lives close). We're hosting Thanksgiving for everyone this year. Occasionally my parents will meet us in the mountains with my inlaws for just a weekend of a weeklong trip. They really like each other and enjoy being together. One year we all went to Europe together and it was great. I planned everything so that there weren't issues with where to stay, where to eat, etc. as I think they would have a hard time stating a preference in front of the others.

[Anonymous]

As little as possible. BIL and my sister would never interact.

[Anonymous]

Never, only for weddings and the occasional funeral

[Anonymous]

Never. But not because of any ill feelings. My ILs are just vastly different than my parents and also over a decade younger.

I was married once before, and my ILs and my parents went out together all the time. They were the same ages, same type of interests, basically just alike in almost every way.

It didn’t bother me either way.

[Anonymous]

My parents live in CA. My ILs are in southern VA. They met at my wedding. One year FIL decided to come for Xmas while my parents' were visiting too. Other than that, they've never spent any time together.

I also grew up with grandparents in different states and I don't think they were ever together.

[Anonymous]

My parents and ILs live very close to one another but DH and I are out of state. I wish they never interacted.
They run into one another at church and the store. My MIL makes a point to try and catch up with my mom every so often but my mom can't stand MIL.

I hate it because there are things I want to share with my parents that I don't want my parents to share with my ILs.
There are times something casually comes up in conversation with one set and before we tell the other set, they hear it from them instead of us and get upset.
Both my mom and MIL seem to use their relationship to get information from the other either about DH and I or about family gossip from the other one.

[Anonymous]

Very little. I think my MIL would like it a little more and I hope when her DH passes (which will be long before her, he is sick) that she will come to my hometown sometimes when we are visiting since that's much closer for her. Not all the time, I don't always want to be "responsible for a guest" but sometimes would be nice like 1 time in summer. or while my folks are visiting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents live in CA. My ILs are in southern VA. They met at my wedding. One year FIL decided to come for Xmas while my parents' were visiting too. Other than that, they've never spent any time together.

I also grew up with grandparents in different states and I don't think they were ever together.

I grew up with grandparents in the neighboring towns and other than thanksgiving that my parents hosted for both sides they almost never interacted although they got along fine. Maybe school plays when we were little but that is it.

My bff has both her parents and her DH's mom here- they are together a lot but I think she wishes it were less. Shoot, she is obligated to invite her SIL's sister's family to a lot of their things- its a little overwhelming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never - they've never met

Not a close family. Weird.
What about the wedding?
You sound low HHI

[Anonymous]

Almost never.

In 11 years, 5 times counting the wedding and rehearsal dinner. Next will be a first communion.