Do your IL's acknowledge your and DH's wedding anniversary?
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Anonymous
| No. But then I'm the 3rd wife. Neither do my Parents who had a horrible marriage. My mother is a bitter, cold person who barely acknowledges her own grandchildren-so not surprising at all. |
Anonymous
| Nope but my parents do. My in laws also don’t acknowledge birthdays including their only grandson. |
Anonymous
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My mother remembers every birthday and every anniversary of every person she's ever know. My husband and I are reminded, by her, of our anniversary. The times she had not reminded us, we have FORGOTTEN! I know, I know. |
Anonymous
| My mother (I'm the husband) typically calls us and wishes us a happy anniversary. My MIL will wish us a happy anniversary if she's visiting at that time (it's happened about 3-4 times in the 15 years we've been married) otherwise not. |
Anonymous
| Yes. I think it's a little weird when people outside of the couple pay any mind to it. |
Anonymous
| Don't make this a thing. Don't make this an indication of anything. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| My mother calls to wish us a Happy Anniversary, my dad doesn't remember but chimed in if he's with mom. My inlaws don't remember dates - anniversary, birthdays, nothing. |
Anonymous
| Yes but I think it's kind of silly. Don't think anyone one should care. |
Anonymous
| They do and call us or send a card. My parents call us and raise a toast to our anniversary if we are having dinner with them close to the date. We do the same for them. Dh organized and paid for his parents fun surprise anniversary trip for their 30th and he met up with them for a day of it. We are all pretty close. But if they were to forget one year I would not think twice about it. |
Anonymous
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One side does and sends a check for dinner and the other side doesn't. Obviously the gesture is kind and appreciated but I don't think it's necessary and I don't think not hearing from ILs on our anniversary is a big deal at all. They still love us.
Way way different from a gc's birthday IMO. |
Anonymous
| MIL sends a card, without fail. My parents will mention it in conversation if we happen to see each around that date. Both are fine by me. I don't really expect others to remember our anniversary. |
Anonymous
| Kinda surprised no one celebrates. It's a pretty big deal to DH and I. We have our "state of the union" discussion and love to talk about the past year and our future. My parents always remember and always offer to babysit. I don't want presents or anything from anyone. |
Anonymous
| Nope. But they acknowledge my SIL and her husband. And babysit for them so they can go out to celebrate or travel. MIL hates me. |
Anonymous
| So sweet for the people whose parents/ILs remember (and commemorate). Hope to do this for my children. |