Husband won't call plumber

[Anonymous]

op: He's not cheap, IMO. He is too hesitant, deliberates too long. And the SN dc is to explain why our time is particularly limited, not to earn a badge.

[Anonymous]

Chronic procrastinator behavior. The problem with procrastinators is that they need an actual timeline within which they have flexibility.

The way to handle is whenever anything comes up where says he will "take care of it." you respond with a time frame within when you will tolerate procrastination. When the trial period is over, you take action. It is up to him to actually show some action during the waiting period to forestall you taking over.

So, plumbing problem on Saturday. He says he'll take care of it. You respond "Great. Thanks! If you can't get someone here by Tuesday morning, I'll call someone. " He knows exactly when you'll take over. Unless the plumber is actually there or scheduled by Tuesday afternoon, on Tuesday morning you start calling. If he has appointment for Wednesday afternoon, you call. If you can get an earlier appointment, then you cancel his. If you can't get an earlier appointment you keep his. He will learn that he can take action or procrastinate and you'll take care of it. If you are care of it, he doesn't get to gripe or get peeved because he was warned. Guy talk: s**t or get off the can.

[Anonymous]

Oh good lord. I had no idea how common this was. We've had a leaky kitchen sink for months, and DH keeps saying he'll fix it. (We also a roach infestation that he insists he'll handle.) I'm going to do the "timeline" thing and then just call a a plumber and an exterminator.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have 3 young dcs, one with SN.

How in the world is this relevant? Does every thread on DCUM have to mention someone's special needs kid? Is it like some kind of DCUM badge of honor around here?

Normally I hate this too, but I think in this case she's explaining why she doesn't have the time or energy to deal with crap.