Wilson HS Homecoming Dance

[Anonymous]

sending a message to admin asking to add "rude people to provide unhelpful diatribes" to the title of this forum, just for clarification.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS wore jeans and a nice shirt last year. Some kids dress up, and if going with a date your son might want to tend toward that end (DS went with friends).

Thanks! After talking to his friends, he suggested a sport coat and dress pants which sounds about right.

For those of you suggesting that I park my helicopter, I asked my son about this before coming to DCUM and his response was a look of surprise followed by saying he didn't know. Had I not mentioned anything to him, he likely would have shown up in a t-shirt, shorts, and flip flops. Luckily, his friends seemed to be better prepared.

then you do not understand. you did not save your son, you one more time prevented him from experiencing life as a growing young man, which may include making mistakes and learning. if he showed up in shorts and flip flops he would have quickly learned a valuable lesson. now he just learned that his mom is there to pave the way for him and that he does not have to worry. you should have parked the helicopter around 6th grade

I disagree. OP showed her son one way to solve a problem. I think we've all gotten an invitation and weren't sure about what to wear. The obvious thing to do is to ask people who have attended in the past.

It doesn't help a teenager to show up and feel blindsided or stupid for not even knowing that he should have considered it might be a dress up event. It's our job to launch our kids. Is it helicopter parent who teaches their kid to eat with a fork?

[Anonymous]

the parent who thinks OP is hurting her son by helping him figure out appropriate gear is a real idiot. I bet she/he tossed their 4 month old in the pool to learn how to swim.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, letting your kids learn a lesson by natural consequences for not getting up on time or not studying enough is one thing.

Letting them be embarrassed with a date at a once a year event that is completely outside their previous experience --- particularly when the intervention simply is to say "have you thought about..." --- is not the same at all.