Importance of "no contact" after a breakup

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are breaking up because he is abusive it's very important.

If you are just breaking up because it didn't work out... I think no contact is not necessary for the 1st 6 weeks. If you love each other you support each other through the breakup.

Um, no. No, no, no, no, no, no. That's what friends, Netflix and Ben&Jerry's are for. You don't support each other through your own breakup. That's just asking for more heartache and backsliding. Just no.

It worked for me for both my breakups in my 20s that didn't work out.

The guys that are jerks I dumped and never looked back.

Maybe all you breakups were with jerks.

My BF in college was the kindest breaker upper. He called my monthly to say nice positive things. Nothing to get back together just kind words. He moved I didn't so no really hard feeling.

Sorry u dated jerks. It's obvious why u attract them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are breaking up because he is abusive it's very important.

If you are just breaking up because it didn't work out... I think no contact is not necessary for the 1st 6 weeks. If you love each other you support each other through the breakup.

Um, no. No, no, no, no, no, no. That's what friends, Netflix and Ben&Jerry's are for. You don't support each other through your own breakup. That's just asking for more heartache and backsliding. Just no.

It worked for me for both my breakups in my 20s that didn't work out.

The guys that are jerks I dumped and never looked back.

Maybe all you breakups were with jerks.

My BF in college was the kindest breaker upper. He called my monthly to say nice positive things. Nothing to get back together just kind words. He moved I didn't so no really hard feeling.

I agree this is the way it should be. To no longer have any contact at all with someone you cared about, and who cared about you, can be mindbending and erode trust in people in general. How can you give the next relationship a fair chance if you know that any day could be the end and you would never speak again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are breaking up because he is abusive it's very important.

If you are just breaking up because it didn't work out... I think no contact is not necessary for the 1st 6 weeks. If you love each other you support each other through the breakup.

Um, no. No, no, no, no, no, no. That's what friends, Netflix and Ben&Jerry's are for. You don't support each other through your own breakup. That's just asking for more heartache and backsliding. Just no.

It worked for me for both my breakups in my 20s that didn't work out.

The guys that are jerks I dumped and never looked back.

Maybe all you breakups were with jerks.

My BF in college was the kindest breaker upper. He called my monthly to say nice positive things. Nothing to get back together just kind words. He moved I didn't so no really hard feeling.

I agree this is the way it should be. To no longer have any contact at all with someone you cared about, and who cared about you, can be mindbending and erode trust in people in general. How can you give the next relationship a fair chance if you know that any day could be the end and you would never speak again?

Having no contact doesn't mean never talking again. I'm friends with most of my ex's, but I needed months/years to get over them and the relationship. Once we both did that we are able to be friends.