WWYD: Literally caught him with his pants down

[Anonymous]

You should have just said DH. Now DCUM will be obsessed with the fact that you're not married and you'll get no good responses on your OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frankly, I'm sick of people on this forum saying "partner". A boyfriend relationship just doesn't have the same level of commitment as a HUSBAND so, yeah. Still if it were me, I'd break up with him for sure.

we've been together a decade, own a home together, joint money, beneficiary to each other's wills, medical POA, raising children together. Believe me there is far more commitment here than there was in either of our marriages

Girl. This is a post about him clearly cheating on you and you're talking about commitment. Priorities!

[Anonymous]

You said you'd be done, but you didn't mean it. Consider that even after he got caught with his dick out he didn't care enough about your feelings to try to get back in your good graces. This is a deal breaker on about 50 levels.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you a heterosexual couple?

[Anonymous]

Break up.

[Anonymous]

This is obviously not a very plausible story, and the fact that he compounded the original issue by staying out for a drink rather than complying with your very reasonable request is a sign of disrespect. Be honest - does this seem in character for him? I wouldn't do anything rash after 10 years together, but you should at least start thinking about getting your ducks in a row.

[Anonymous]

DTMFA.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of what happened with his co-worker, by staying for that drink he was sending you a message that he doesn't take you seriously or care how you feel. He may have even been trying to provoke you into breaking up with him so he doesn't have to do the dirty work.

[Anonymous]

So. I need some clarification. WHERE did you see him? At a rest area? A red light? At the day care? I don't get it? I mean, why would he be changing in full view of you when you'd be driving by if it wasn't mostly innocent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what happened with his co-worker, by staying for that drink he was sending you a message that he doesn't take you seriously or care how you feel. He may have even been trying to provoke you into breaking up with him so he doesn't have to do the dirty work.

I agree. You said you'd be done, so be done. Empty ultimatums lead to this level of disrespect.

Obviously celebrating her was more important to him than reconciling with you.

Maybe it's a good thing you're not married. Now there's no long drawn out divorce.

[Anonymous]

Threesome.

[Anonymous]

OP here--we've been together for 6 years. We own a home together. We're just not married. We have one child together. He was in a very public place outside of a store. The thing that hurts the most is he acknowledged how bad it looked but didn't feel any sense of urgency to come home and explain himself. if our relationship wasn't already hanging on by a thread I might let this go but now I'm just done. I feel bad for our daughter the most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here--we've been together for 6 years. We own a home together. We're just not married. We have one child together. He was in a very public place outside of a store. The thing that hurts the most is he acknowledged how bad it looked but didn't feel any sense of urgency to come home and explain himself. if our relationship wasn't already hanging on by a thread I might let this go but now I'm just done. I feel bad for our daughter the most.

Then be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here--we've been together for 6 years. We own a home together. We're just not married. We have one child together. He was in a very public place outside of a store. The thing that hurts the most is he acknowledged how bad it looked but didn't feel any sense of urgency to come home and explain himself. if our relationship wasn't already hanging on by a thread I might let this go but now I'm just done. I feel bad for our daughter the most.

So, you are already hanging on by a thread? I'm sorry. This sucks.

[Anonymous]

Be grateful for this sign from God that this is OVER and this relationship is no good. Now you don't have to waste any more time with him. Celebration!