I think I'm being mean-girled -- what to do?

[Anonymous]

I am having a hard time imagining this scenario. They saw you and your child together and said "hi". Didn't you assume it was a hello to BOTH of you?

[Anonymous]

OP, yes, that's awkward because your kids are close friends. If you don't want to be friends with them though then why you care if they talk to you or not? If they say hi to you that's enough. I think you were hurt by their silence when you needed them and decided to cut them off instead of talking to them and letting them know how hurt you felt. You should clear the air with them without accusing them or being confrontational and then based on their response choose how to proceed.

[Anonymous]

You froze these women out to hang out with cooler friends.
You are mad they didn't then track you down to do who knows what for you when your son had an accident.
You are now upset because they treated your son nicely but didn't make a big enough deal over you?

Do I have this correct?

[Anonymous]

Even if you "stared it" by scaling back your relationship, there is no reason to be uncivil. I find the previous responses bizarre. So many of you think that if a friend spends less time with you than other friends it's appropriate to ignore her and not say a word when you encounter each other? Grow up. OP, just be normal when you encounter her and make small talk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You froze these women out to hang out with cooler friends.
You are mad they didn't then track you down to do who knows what for you when your son had an accident.
You are now upset because they treated your son nicely but didn't make a big enough deal over you?

Do I have this correct?

Sounds about right to me. Op seems like the oblivious self centered type though

[Anonymous]

In my experience, people pick right up on the person who blows them off to hang out with "cooler" people. You didn't fool these women, OP.

They have your number. And they're not going to dial it anymore. You shouldn't expect them to, either.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

You sound just as nasty as OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

You sound just as nasty as OP.

Mm yeah I dunno...OR maybe it's that other posters have been astute enough to glean information about how the OP actually behaved towards these other women based on her post, and are using critical thinking skills in their responses.

[Anonymous]

How are they mean girls if they are talking to your child? Get this "perceived mean girl" thing out of your head. True mean girl behavior would would have ignored both of you. I think you are missing some social cues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe the rude posts on here. OP you had every right to cut off these losers and the fact that they would talk to your son and not you says it all.

Ignore them completely in the future.

BTW, take a lot of the social advice you get on here with a BIG grain of salt. People on DCUM are not the cool, well liked, socially intelligent crowd, to put it mildly. You really don't want to take your advice from a bunch of rejects.

+1 If I saw a parent and child, and my child was friends with that child, I would say hi, nice day and let the kids talk. It doesn't matter if I don't particularly like that person or not-it's called manners. I have a rule, "Not married to you, NOT related to you, your name is NOT on my paycheck, and you are disrespectful to me or my family, then you do NOT count ". I do Not fill my life with nasty, petty, immature bullies, who I have no respect for. I suggest the same for you OP.

[Anonymous]

Men do not have these problems. I can't imagine a group of dads acting like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean...it feels like you probably Mean girl-ed them first??

+1 OP is a self centered individual, be happy they treat you child well. It shows they are each a better person than you.

[Anonymous]

I love that there will always be a group of people on DCUM that will defend any OP. But there will also always be at least one to Trash OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like you have very little self awareness, OP.

OP here again. You're actually right -- I have always had trouble understanding how some of my behavior impacts others. Ever since I was a teen I've tried to carefully read situations and behave kindly, knowing that I need to work harder than others to be "normal." But sometimes (maybe many times) I get things wrong.

You are likely the root of the issue then. I think you just have to get over it at this point.