Do you want to know who is checking you out?

[Anonymous]

When I was married, I used to catch men checking out my XDW all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tell DW if someone checks her out, she usually doesn't believe it. For example we were at beach and a group of younger guys were checking her out as she walked by. I told her and she didn't believe me saying she is too old for them to be checking her out.
DW does get mad if another woman flirts with me or checks me out

My DW will be walking down the beach with our three little kids and its a real hoot to watch the young guys stare at her. At 35 she looks better in a bikini than most college girls. When I tell her the young guys are staring she laughs it off and doesn't ask who.

[Anonymous]

Spouse 1 shouldn't have brought it up at all if s/he didn't want to tell the whole story. I think it's human nature to want to know who finds you attractive--it doesn't mean they're going to run off with that person. If the reason Spouse 1 doesn't want to tell Spouse 2 who it is stems from jealousy or insecurity, that's just really stupid. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spouse 1 tells Spouse 2 they saw someone checking out Spouse 2. Spouse 2 wants to know who it was. Spouse 1 gets upset because they perceive Spouse 2 wants to check that person out and see how they compare to Spouse 1. Spouse 2 claims they were just curious and found the whole thing funny.

Who is right? Is it wrong to want to see who was checking you out when someone brings it to your attention?

Spouse 1 is now upset because the person checking Spouse 2 out is probably better loiking and/ or more successful and charismatic than spouse 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tell DW if someone checks her out, she usually doesn't believe it. For example we were at beach and a group of younger guys were checking her out as she walked by. I told her and she didn't believe me saying she is too old for them to be checking her out.
DW does get mad if another woman flirts with me or checks me out

My DW will be walking down the beach with our three little kids and its a real hoot to watch the young guys stare at her. At 35 she looks better in a bikini than most college girls. When I tell her the young guys are staring she laughs it off and doesn't ask who.

PP - I forgot to mention that I am a very average looking guy and I'm pretty sure the guys staring wonder WTF is she doing with him!

[Anonymous]

Spouse 1 was expecting a different response. Oops

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spouse 1 was expecting a different response. Oops

What response is that?