Divorcing, dating, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how this "should" look, but here I am. Early thirties, two kids, divorcing (husband cheated on me before you start yelling about bad choices). I would not even consider bringing a man into my children's lives for years. That said, I am really horny. Options: late thirties man with whom I have (pre-marriage) history - would be a good option for long-distance NSA sex. Another option is a youthful fifty-ish man whom I've recently met, but he's more interested in dating. I need to get laid. Thoughts?

Sounds like you ain't interested in the relationship route you just want to get off - so what the hell do you need advice about.
You got kids I assume you know how to get off with another person, right?
Pick one and have fun lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how this "should" look, but here I am. Early thirties, two kids, divorcing (husband cheated on me before you start yelling about bad choices). I would not even consider bringing a man into my children's lives for years. That said, I am really horny. Options: late thirties man with whom I have (pre-marriage) history - would be a good option for long-distance NSA sex. Another option is a youthful fifty-ish man whom I've recently met, but he's more interested in dating. I need to get laid. Thoughts?

Sounds like you ain't interested in the relationship route you just want to get off - so what the hell do you need advice about.
You got kids I assume you know how to get off with another person, right?
Pick one and have fun lady.

LOL yeah. How hard is it for a horny chick to get laid?

OP, go into a bar and lift up your skirt. Problem solved!

[Anonymous]

I went through a similar situation a few years ago when I was an emotional wreck coming out of a divorce but my libido was very active. I knew a guy who was coming out of a divorce and I called him and we met for coffee. After about 30 minute of how awful divorce is chit chat I simply said I know you are going to think I'm crazy but I really miss sex. He laughed and agreed. We met on and off for about three months until he met someone else. Luckily a few months later I met my now DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Once the marriage is over and you're heading for divorce, choose to sleep around based on your own moral code. Has zero bearing in the court case.

Not true. Until the divorce is final, it can still be adultery and be cause for an "at fault" divorce. This will have bearing in alimony if an "at fault" divorce is granted. Different jurisdictions may be more lenient than others, but I wouldn't chance it.

[Anonymous]

OP, is this a serious question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went through a similar situation a few years ago when I was an emotional wreck coming out of a divorce but my libido was very active. I knew a guy who was coming out of a divorce and I called him and we met for coffee. After about 30 minute of how awful divorce is chit chat I simply said I know you are going to think I'm crazy but I really miss sex. He laughed and agreed. We met on and off for about three months until he met someone else. Luckily a few months later I met my now DH.

Do you have an amazing sex life with your now DH or did you only do things for your FWB that you now wouldn't do for your DH?

[Anonymous]

I think the 50 y.o. guy would be more likely to get hurt if you just want him for sex, which could lead to some awkward calls/texts. Try the other one first.

[Anonymous]

You do know you can take care of business without a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Once the marriage is over and you're heading for divorce, choose to sleep around based on your own moral code. Has zero bearing in the court case.

Not true. Until the divorce is final, it can still be adultery and be cause for an "at fault" divorce. This will have bearing in alimony if an "at fault" divorce is granted. Different jurisdictions may be more lenient than others, but I wouldn't chance it.

Stop with the scare tactics. Even is a very divorce-conservative state like Maryland you would have a hell of a time first proving adultery, and then finding a judge who cares. Especially if the people were already separated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the 50 y.o. guy would be more likely to get hurt if you just want him for sex, which could lead to some awkward calls/texts. Try the other one first.

Not this 50 year old guy. Just be honest and up-front about what you want. In my experienced, even the most hardened FWB gal eventually wants more. The poor things fall in love....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the 50 y.o. guy would be more likely to get hurt if you just want him for sex, which could lead to some awkward calls/texts. Try the other one first.

Not this 50 year old guy. Just be honest and up-front about what you want. In my experienced, even the most hardened FWB gal eventually wants more. The poor things fall in love....

Funny you mention this! I was just today thinking I needed to pull the plug on my current FWB because I am starting to develop feelings. Despite truly not thinking I have any interest in going down that road. Time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure how this "should" look, but here I am. Early thirties, two kids, divorcing (husband cheated on me before you start yelling about bad choices). I would not even consider bringing a man into my children's lives for years. That said, I am really horny. Options: late thirties man with whom I have (pre-marriage) history - would be a good option for long-distance NSA sex. Another option is a youthful fifty-ish man whom I've recently met, but he's more interested in dating. I need to get laid. Thoughts?

Sounds like you ain't interested in the relationship route you just want to get off - so what the hell do you need advice about.
You got kids I assume you know how to get off with another person, right?
Pick one and have fun lady.

LOL yeah. How hard is it for a horny chick to get laid?

OP, go into a bar and lift up your skirt. Problem solved!

Exactly. You will find someone willing to climb on top if that's all you want.