How terrible is a weekday wedding?
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Anonymous
| I would totally take a day off from work to attend your weekday wedding. Seriously, not a big deal if I love somebody. Have the wedding you can afford. I say go for it, love it, enjoy it! |
Anonymous
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For me the issue would be that you want this in November, for a sibling or friend who is close to me like a sibling I would do it it, anyone else I wouldn't.
November is headed towards that time of year, and I don't want to put time of towards a wedding I could use towards holiday. |
Anonymous
Right as far as people not caring that much. So it isn't terrible since not many care anyway. I wouldn't skip work and otherwise mess with a work day for very many people. |
Anonymous
| If people do attend, many will be there out of a sense of obligation and won't be very happy to be there. Is that how you want your wedding day to feel? |
Anonymous
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PP here.
Op absolutely go for it if it's what you want, just understand that likely not many would come. It's about the bride and groom anyway, not 100 guests. |
Anonymous
| If it's a 6 pm ceremony with dinner and music but no dancing so you're out of there by 10 pm at the latest, and you only want retirees and local friends, go for it. |
Anonymous
| Bad idea. Why not get married at a courthouse and have the ceremony whenever you can plan it, even if it's next year? |
Anonymous
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You can do this, sure. But also don't be surprised if less people come because it's too much time off work.
So if you are ok with having way fewer guests there, then sure. But don't throw a hissy fit later that people can't/won't come. |
Anonymous
| Op - provide more specifics. |
Anonymous
Agreed, we need more information. Around here, a lot of people will be hard-pressed to get out of work, get ready for a wedding, and then get to your venue much before 7 pm, so if you're thinking of starting earlier than that, be prepared for a lot of people to either send their regrets or come late. Are you at least having the ceremony and reception at the same location? |
Anonymous
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I actually think pp who suggested a 6pm dinner thing is right.
People don't have to take a huge amount of time off for that. Could ask the nanny to stay a little later. Dinner, ceremony and a couple hours of dancing, be done by 10:00pm a 11 at the latest. That's do able. Even better if you can do the ceremony and dinner at the same place with virtually no wait time in between. I think you'll have an issue you if you are expecting an event OP like Flying your bridesmaids out for events, family dinner, rehearsal dinner, hours of dancing. If you want a big to do it's a no. If you are happy with simple, it can wok. |
Anonymous
Not only that, even the ones who decline will ALWAYS REMEMBER that you chose a venue over your guests. It's incredibly immature of you to even consider doing this, to the point that you're too immature to be getting married. |
Anonymous
Ehh or she was prioritizing being married over having a party |
Anonymous
OP here. The venue is a small hotel in Old Town Alexandria. We are thinking small (50 people) gathering of closest friends and family, most of whom are local. 4:30 pm ceremony. 5-6 reception; 7-9 dinner 10 - 11 dancing. Not a big wedding. |
Anonymous
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A friend of mine had a wedding on a Tuesday night. Almost everyone left before dinner was done. She was heading back to her house by 8:30.
It really depends on your expectations... if you just want a simple wedding with very few people (and no kids), then it can work. But if many of your guests are going to be working the next day or have kids that have homework and need to be on the bus the next morning, it's not worth it, go with a cheaper venue and a weekend date. |