Weird dog lady at work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At a work lunch last week, a couple people were talking about kids and this lady mentions she has to drop her daughter off at daycare every day. Her daughter is a dog. It lead to a sort of awkward pause in conversation. It was really weird of her to say that, when people are discussing real kids and grand kids.

It annoyed me. Anyone else get annoyed when weirdos interject with their animal stories when the conversation is about kids? I find it distasteful.

Yes it was awkward, but I encourage you to change your attitude toward her.
She needs a friend.She's trying to relate to you all and form a connection.

I used to be you many years ago when my kids were small I had a coworker who would constantly talk about his dog and relate his dog stories to our kid stories. It annoyed me and the other parents that he dared to make such a comparison. Sadly, we weren't very nice to him because of it. What we didn't know was that he was in a very abusive relationship with no family our outside support, so basically all he had was a dog, work and his boyfriend. Out of those 3. two of them treated him badly. He found love, kindness, and acceptance in a dog. I and the the other humans were so caught up in our parenthood we failed to take notice of a person who needed us.
Not a single one of us were hurt by his dog stories. His dog stories had zero impact on our kids , but are attitude impacted him.
There's not a lot I regret in life, but I truly regret how stuck up I was back then.
You will never regret being kind OP, not really. You will regret being snotty to someone.
So laugh at her funny dog stories. Ask her about her pup sometimes, and Invite her out to lunch or to take a coffee break with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At a work lunch last week, a couple people were talking about kids and this lady mentions she has to drop her daughter off at daycare every day. Her daughter is a dog. It lead to a sort of awkward pause in conversation. It was really weird of her to say that, when people are discussing real kids and grand kids.

It annoyed me. Anyone else get annoyed when weirdos interject with their animal stories when the conversation is about kids? I find it distasteful.

Yes it was awkward, but I encourage you to change your attitude toward her.
She needs a friend.She's trying to relate to you all and form a connection.

I used to be you many years ago when my kids were small I had a coworker who would constantly talk about his dog and relate his dog stories to our kid stories. It annoyed me and the other parents that he dared to make such a comparison. Sadly, we weren't very nice to him because of it. What we didn't know was that he was in a very abusive relationship with no family our outside support, so basically all he had was a dog, work and his boyfriend. Out of those 3. two of them treated him badly. He found love, kindness, and acceptance in a dog. I and the the other humans were so caught up in our parenthood we failed to take notice of a person who needed us.
Not a single one of us were hurt by his dog stories. His dog stories had zero impact on our kids , but are attitude impacted him.
There's not a lot I regret in life, but I truly regret how stuck up I was back then.
You will never regret being kind OP, not really. You will regret being snotty to someone.
So laugh at her funny dog stories. Ask her about her pup sometimes, and Invite her out to lunch or to take a coffee break with you.

Good post. Don't be mean.

[Anonymous]

This is why I don't like dog people. Pets are not humans. You're free to believe it, though, if you want others to secretly think you're delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I don't like dog people. Pets are not humans. You're free to believe it, though, if you want others to secretly think you're delusional.

No one thinks they're human, and that's part of their charm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I don't like dog people. Pets are not humans. You're free to believe it, though, if you want others to secretly think you're delusional.

Dog people are big hearted, warm
People. You wouldn't fit in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Yes it was awkward, but I encourage you to change your attitude toward her.
She needs a friend.She's trying to relate to you all and form a connection.

I used to be you many years ago when my kids were small I had a coworker who would constantly talk about his dog and relate his dog stories to our kid stories. It annoyed me and the other parents that he dared to make such a comparison. Sadly, we weren't very nice to him because of it. What we didn't know was that he was in a very abusive relationship with no family our outside support, so basically all he had was a dog, work and his boyfriend. Out of those 3. two of them treated him badly. He found love, kindness, and acceptance in a dog. I and the the other humans were so caught up in our parenthood we failed to take notice of a person who needed us.
Not a single one of us were hurt by his dog stories. His dog stories had zero impact on our kids , but are attitude impacted him.
There's not a lot I regret in life, but I truly regret how stuck up I was back then.
You will never regret being kind OP, not really. You will regret being snotty to someone.
So laugh at her funny dog stories. Ask her about her pup sometimes, and Invite her out to lunch or to take a coffee break with you.

+1

Have a baby doesn't make you better than anyone else.

Some people can't/choose not to have children and their pets fill a need in their lives. I have a dog and a human daughter and I tell plenty of stories about both of them, probably much to the dismay of those that have to listen. They both are very important to me. Yes, of course I love my daughter more than I've ever loved anything in life but my furr-baby is also so special to me and she will take a piece of my heart with her when she goes.

[Anonymous]

My boss asks about how my dog is doing, and to see photos - and doesn't even remember the names of my small kids. It's kind of annoying, but honestly I'm glad to have a least one thing to connect about on a personal level. I think a lot of DC is like this - sad, weird, but better than not loving anything or caring about anything.

[Anonymous]

I sometimes refer to my dog as "my furry first born". I had him for 7 years before my son was born. They are very close and DH and I sometimes find ourselves asking each other what "the boys" are doing if we're on a different level than them. Sure, it's a different kind of love than for humans, but it's a valid kind of love. I've raised my dog from a baby same as my son. He is part of our family and the dynamic of our family will change greatly when my dog is no longer here because he is a member of our family. I don't really care if people think that's weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP - I don't like when anyone compares a pet to a human. I hate people who call themselves "pet parents" and use Mommy and Daddy (when they are calling the dog, say "Come to Mommy, Fido").

Not a issue with being a parent, but my mother died recently and a woman I know socially told me that she knew how I felt because her cat had just died (she said her cat "passed away" which, for some reason, pissed me off even more!)

Why do you hate it? Do you feel that the word parent gives you status over other people thatnit somehow becomes devalued if they use it to describe a caring and responsible relationship with another being?

Being a pet owner is no way analogous to being an actual parent. I have a pet and I have children - there is NO comparison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP - I don't like when anyone compares a pet to a human. I hate people who call themselves "pet parents" and use Mommy and Daddy (when they are calling the dog, say "Come to Mommy, Fido").

Not a issue with being a parent, but my mother died recently and a woman I know socially told me that she knew how I felt because her cat had just died (she said her cat "passed away" which, for some reason, pissed me off even more!)

Why do you hate it? Do you feel that the word parent gives you status over other people thatnit somehow becomes devalued if they use it to describe a caring and responsible relationship with another being?

Being a pet owner is no way analogous to being an actual parent. I have a pet and I have children - there is NO comparison.

I'm sure both sets of your kids are jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I don't like dog people. Pets are not humans. You're free to believe it, though, if you want others to secretly think you're delusional.

That's perfectly fine. I don't like people who don't like dogs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP - I don't like when anyone compares a pet to a human. I hate people who call themselves "pet parents" and use Mommy and Daddy (when they are calling the dog, say "Come to Mommy, Fido").

Not a issue with being a parent, but my mother died recently and a woman I know socially told me that she knew how I felt because her cat had just died (she said her cat "passed away" which, for some reason, pissed me off even more!)

Why do you hate it? Do you feel that the word parent gives you status over other people thatnit somehow becomes devalued if they use it to describe a caring and responsible relationship with another being?

Being a pet owner is no way analogous to being an actual parent. I have a pet and I have children - there is NO comparison.

I'm sure both sets of your kids are jerks.

What a nasty thing to say- I'm sorry you don't understand that being a pet owner is not the same as being an actual parent. Having an ugly attitude in life wont do you any favors.

[Anonymous]

Live and let live people. If someone thinks their pet is their child, that's their choice. Let it roll off you and not get annoyed by things like this will increase your enjoyment of life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP - I don't like when anyone compares a pet to a human. I hate people who call themselves "pet parents" and use Mommy and Daddy (when they are calling the dog, say "Come to Mommy, Fido").

Not a issue with being a parent, but my mother died recently and a woman I know socially told me that she knew how I felt because her cat had just died (she said her cat "passed away" which, for some reason, pissed me off even more!)

Why do you hate it? Do you feel that the word parent gives you status over other people thatnit somehow becomes devalued if they use it to describe a caring and responsible relationship with another being?

Being a pet owner is no way analogous to being an actual parent. I have a pet and I have children - there is NO comparison.

I'm sure both sets of your kids are jerks.

What a nasty thing to say- I'm sorry you don't understand that being a pet owner is not the same as being an actual parent. Having an ugly attitude in life wont do you any favors.

Come here being a judgmental bitch, and that's what you'll get. Enjoy!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP - I don't like when anyone compares a pet to a human. I hate people who call themselves "pet parents" and use Mommy and Daddy (when they are calling the dog, say "Come to Mommy, Fido").

Not a issue with being a parent, but my mother died recently and a woman I know socially told me that she knew how I felt because her cat had just died (she said her cat "passed away" which, for some reason, pissed me off even more!)

Why do you hate it? Do you feel that the word parent gives you status over other people thatnit somehow becomes devalued if they use it to describe a caring and responsible relationship with another being?

Being a pet owner is no way analogous to being an actual parent. I have a pet and I have children - there is NO comparison.

I'm sure both sets of your kids are jerks.

What a nasty thing to say- I'm sorry you don't understand that being a pet owner is not the same as being an actual parent. Having an ugly attitude in life wont do you any favors.

Come here being a judgmental bitch, and that's what you'll get. Enjoy!

I wasn't being judgmental- just stating the obvious. I do love dogs - I really do and I really wouldn't have been bothered at all by a woman referring to her dog as her daughter- but a dog owner has no comparison to being a parent.