My husband has never gotten me flowers

[Anonymous]

My father ALWAYS got my mother nice flowers and very thoughtful cards on Mothers Day, her Birthday, etc. Unsolicited. It was great, and so was their relationship.

My husband is a man of few words and never gets anyone anything, unless it's an afterthought or he asks what you want for your bday 10x. Also never says I love you. I suppose he shows it tho with our little cute inside jokes and nicknames, but still, very indirect individual. Works OK, since I hate attention and am top of my field (which, of course, my DH could care less about, so fine by me!). Can't wait to retire and just get paid to sit on boards.

BTW, my daughters and I get awesome flowers at Trader joes every other weekend. I highly rec that or else go highend and get a $75+ real flowerpiece. Everything in the middle price range for delivery sux.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you used your words and he listened.

However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.

I'm not evaluating my relationship I am enjoying it.

Liar. You were fine with it. Now all of a sudden you aren't. One of you coworkers or friends got flowers from her man and you felt insecure and started comparing. Enjoy your flowers.

No, I'll tell you what happened. I have always been super pragmatic so it never bothered me before. Unrelated to that, we've had some back luck since getting married - job issues on both sides, and just a lot of uncertainty and stress. So as our 3rd anniversary approached and we haven't had much luck (yet) getting our lives built like we had imagined, I said "You know what, if life is going to be such a pain in the ass, I'd at least like some flowers to cheer me up." And they are!

Hope things get better for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad you used your words and he listened.

However, I think women who evaluate their relationship based on things like flowers are immature.

I'm not evaluating my relationship I am enjoying it.

Liar. You were fine with it. Now all of a sudden you aren't. One of you coworkers or friends got flowers from her man and you felt insecure and started comparing. Enjoy your flowers.

No, I'll tell you what happened. I have always been super pragmatic so it never bothered me before. Unrelated to that, we've had some back luck since getting married - job issues on both sides, and just a lot of uncertainty and stress. So as our 3rd anniversary approached and we haven't had much luck (yet) getting our lives built like we had imagined, I said "You know what, if life is going to be such a pain in the ass, I'd at least like some flowers to cheer me up." And they are!

Hope things get better for you.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

My friend is a marketing manager at one of the big online flower retailers and asked if I wanted to be part of market research.

They sent me a giant bouquet every 2 weeks for 2 years, and my husband still got me flowers on my birthday. I was so over flowers at that point, but what can you do? A gesture is a gesture.

Glad you like your flowers, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father ALWAYS got my mother nice flowers and very thoughtful cards on Mothers Day, her Birthday, etc. Unsolicited. It was great, and so was their relationship.

My husband is a man of few words and never gets anyone anything, unless it's an afterthought or he asks what you want for your bday 10x. Also never says I love you. I suppose he shows it tho with our little cute inside jokes and nicknames, but still, very indirect individual. Works OK, since I hate attention and am top of my field (which, of course, my DH could care less about, so fine by me!). Can't wait to retire and just get paid to sit on boards.

BTW, my daughters and I get awesome flowers at Trader joes every other weekend. I highly rec that or else go highend and get a $75+ real flowerpiece. Everything in the middle price range for delivery sux.

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[Anonymous]

Years ago my DH figured out that I'm not a flower girl as they quickly die! So over time he'd give me something that related to our kids or a trip we had taken. Now we have grand babies so the ideas are endless. We don't go overboard on birthdays or anniversaries or even Christmas but I do love that he puts some thought into it.

[Anonymous]

My DH has gotten me flowers for bday, anniversary, vday,mother's day, and "just because" for the past 17 years. But, unfortunately, I had to tell him to stop because it makes me sneeze

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has explained he can't buy dead plants, so he buys (his favorite) potted orchids instead.

I'm so over them...

I want carnations and hydrangeas and lillies!

I am the opposite. I only want tulips, or orchids, but I get Safeway bouquets every other week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:but today he did! It is our 3rd anniversary. I had told him last week that I am not ok with days like our anniversary and my birthday passing like it is no big deal. I am not looking for a diamond necklace but I would like to feel like he puts some effort into our relationship in this manner from time to time. They are beautiful! I am so glad I made this clear. I made sure to be SUPER appreciative so he enjoys the experience and repeats it

Lordy. Hope things improve.