DH gives 2 year old ice cream every night.

[Anonymous]

WTH? I can't believe people are saying this is fine. It is not okay to eat an ice cream cone every single night. That's absurd. He doesn't need an ice cream cone every night, and neither does your DH (although if he wants to, it's his life, and he's an adult who can choose).

My eldest kid is 5 and very small for his age. He's also an extremely picky eater. We could give him ice cream every night, and he probably would eat it happily and gain more weight, but I don't feel that this is the point. He needs to learn healthy eating habits, and the amount of sugar in ice cream is not something I want him having every night. How large are these cones?

DH does not need to have a special bonding thing with his kid that involves food. That sets up food issues for the future, in my opinion -- especially if it's the only way that they really bond and spend special time together. If they want to have a dessert, serve fruit or freeze bananas and make into a "banana ice cream" (just frozen bananas, peanut butter, and maybe some mini chocolate chips in the blender).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son eats one of these nearly every night. I don't have a problem with it. If he's eaten other sweets during the day then we don't give it to him but it's a small treat that he really enjoys. Would you feel better if the serving size was controlled?

Edited to fix the pic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good thing he doesn't listen to you, he isn't your child or your student.

He is equally as much of a parent as you are. He isn't your assistant. Many people eat a small dessert after dinner every single night.

If you disagree about something, you need to discuss it, have a conversation about it...not have him listen to you tell him what is right.

9 out of 10 parenting conflicts wouldn't exist if middle-class mothers understood this.

It's always the bitches fault amirite?

[Anonymous]

I had ice cream almost every night as a kid growing up. I was always in the 90th for height and 50th for weight. As an adult I'm 5'10" 130 lbs without trying. I have pretty healthy eating habits but I still eat ice cream a few times a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had ice cream almost every night as a kid growing up. I was always in the 90th for height and 50th for weight. As an adult I'm 5'10" 130 lbs without trying. I have pretty healthy eating habits but I still eat ice cream a few times a week.

Same here--though I'm not as tall! I'm a healthy/lean weight for my height. I actually have ice cream for dinner sometimes!

[Anonymous]

Ask the pediatrician.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good thing he doesn't listen to you, he isn't your child or your student.

He is equally as much of a parent as you are. He isn't your assistant. Many people eat a small dessert after dinner every single night.

If you disagree about something, you need to discuss it, have a conversation about it...not have him listen to you tell him what is right.

9 out of 10 parenting conflicts wouldn't exist if middle-class mothers understood this.

It's always the bitches fault amirite?

Your passive-aggressiveness is unbecoming.

[Anonymous]

I went to great lengths to track these down after eating one at a friend's place after dinner.

https://www.amazon.com/Joy-Cream-Cones-Count-cones/dp/B00LXFQAB4/ref=sr_1_3_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1499825458&sr=8-3&keywords=tiny+ice+cream+cones

It's absolutely the perfect size for me & my 2 yo. It's just a nice little treat without being over the top, and I never feel guilty offering it.

[Anonymous]

DH gave DD a bottle of breast milk every single night until she was 18 months. Then he gave her a cup of warm milk. Then that turned into a cup of warm milk and some animal crackers. Then that turned into each of them having an ice cream bar together every night in the summer and hot chocolate every night in the winter (both slept fine after the hot chocolate). I love their ritual! I would never, ever interfere with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTH? I can't believe people are saying this is fine. It is not okay to eat an ice cream cone every single night. That's absurd. He doesn't need an ice cream cone every night, and neither does your DH (although if he wants to, it's his life, and he's an adult who can choose).

My eldest kid is 5 and very small for his age. He's also an extremely picky eater. We could give him ice cream every night, and he probably would eat it happily and gain more weight, but I don't feel that this is the point. He needs to learn healthy eating habits, and the amount of sugar in ice cream is not something I want him having every night. How large are these cones?

DH does not need to have a special bonding thing with his kid that involves food. That sets up food issues for the future, in my opinion -- especially if it's the only way that they really bond and spend special time together. If they want to have a dessert, serve fruit or freeze bananas and make into a "banana ice cream" (just frozen bananas, peanut butter, and maybe some mini chocolate chips in the blender).

You are setting up your kid for food issues. Your kid is "very small for his age", yet you freak out about ice cream. Your tiny, picky eater needs the fat and calcium in ice cream.

[Anonymous]

These things are pretty small. Nutritional info here: https://www.traderjoes.com/fearless-flyer/article/1716

70 calories, 3g fat, 9g carbs (5 of which are sugars).

This is a nice little treat, and that's all -- and it's perfectly healthy and sane for a family to have a small dessert every night.

(I'm diabetic, and even I can have one of these as a treat if I've been careful about my carbs for the whole day.)

[Anonymous]

Kid needs the cals. Husband is 100% right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's fine. A small ice cream cone ritual is great for both of them. Unclench.

+1
I bet they sit together outside on the front stoop too, right? Cute!

Think of it as a good source of dairy and buy the liw fat/frozen yogurt if you're so uptight about calories and fat, but honestly, let it go.

[Anonymous]

Meh. I don't do this, and while I'm not as stridently opposed as that one PP, I just don't think daily dessert needs to be a thing.

And yet, if your husband really wants to do this... I have a hard time getting worked up about it.

[Anonymous]

At different times and for different reasons my kids have fallen off their weight curve. Both times the doctor recommended French vanilla ice cream nightly for the extra fat.