MD/VA neighborhoods - where would you live with totally dependent disabled adult?

[Anonymous]

You should also post this in the SN forum -- there's at least one poster who is really knowledgeable about adult special needs issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd look in Takoma Park. The housing stock isn't perfect for your needs, but there are other families who chose Takoma Park because the ethos of inclusion means that developmentally and physically disabled folks are fully considered when planning community events, municipal services, etc.

What in the world does this mean?

Hippie liberal communities like Takoma Park tend to go above and beyond basic ADA compliance, which means municipal buildings or community concerts or whatever include the concerns of marginalized communities like the disabled more than the legal minimum requires.

I have visited TP many times and have observed none of this - mom of quadriplegic.

[Anonymous]

If you have a waiver for DC then I would look for a condo in DC. There are two outstanding teaching hospitals within close proximity in NW as well as several other outstanding hospitals in the City. This will make doctor visits much easier. And it is my understanding that the DC regs/application thereof tend to be much more lenient towards the patient. Agree with a pp that you should post this on the SN thread.

[Anonymous]

Takoma Park near Washington Adventist or SS near Holy Cross Hospital. Both are close to public transportation if you end up with HHC aides who don't drive. Plenty of parks and friendly neighbors.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, many of the things that people are proposing are missing the forest for the trees.

Unless the family is unbelievably wealthy (in which case they wouldn't be looking for a 600K house) the #1 issue is going to be government assistance. Almost no one can take on the responsibility for a person who requires total care by themselves, so knowing which state is going to provide a medicaid waiver immediately is crucial.

Having a park, or accessible meetings at the local town hall, or a shorter commute to doctor's appointments are really nice, but their importance compared to things like having someone to help with transfers if something happens to your back, or a day program so you can keep a roof over your head, or coverage for durable medical equipment like wheelchairs and oxygen tubing, or having the possibility of a quality group home if something happens to the caregiver.

OP needs to be speaking to lawyers and groups that advocate for people with severe disabilities in each state.

[Anonymous]

Maryland, then look where services are and buy nearby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, many of the things that people are proposing are missing the forest for the trees.

Unless the family is unbelievably wealthy (in which case they wouldn't be looking for a 600K house) the #1 issue is going to be government assistance. Almost no one can take on the responsibility for a person who requires total care by themselves, so knowing which state is going to provide a medicaid waiver immediately is crucial.

Having a park, or accessible meetings at the local town hall, or a shorter commute to doctor's appointments are really nice, but their importance compared to things like having someone to help with transfers if something happens to your back, or a day program so you can keep a roof over your head, or coverage for durable medical equipment like wheelchairs and oxygen tubing, or having the possibility of a quality group home if something happens to the caregiver.

OP needs to be speaking to lawyers and groups that advocate for people with severe disabilities in each state.

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