Divorce - have police present when ex picks up things?

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP that not knowing he would leave you isn't grounds for involving police, only do it if you actually feel unsafe. Otherwise, better to have friends or family with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are getting a divorce. In DC, can you have the police come and watch your ex when he picks some of his things up? I know he's bringing someone with him to help him move things. I don't think he'll hurt me, but I also never thought he'd leave me either. Will DC police even come if you call 311 or do they not do that here? I can't find anything on the DC police website to suggest that they offer this service.

I think that the best way to handle this situation would be to have someone present, but not necessarily the police, since you are not concerned about violence at this time. Do you have a friend or relative in the area who would be able to be present and intervene if necessary? You could also arrange for him to pick up his stuff when you are not there, but in that situation, I would be concerned that he might try to take things that do not belong to him or damage the property in some way.

But really, unless you have some specific reason that you're concerned he will be violent towards you, there is no need to have the police present.

[Anonymous]

You obviously are facing an acrimonious divorce. Having a cop or anyone in uniform there will only exacerbate the problem. Arrange for a couple of friends to be with you and do your best to agree on what is his before he arrives. Don't get into an on scene argument.

[Anonymous]

He's leaving you. I don't think it's going to get violent.

In fact, this sounds more like you're trying to shame him as vindication for leaving you.

Is he leaving you for another woman?

[Anonymous]

Instead of taking advice from a bunch of unqualified strangers, why not go to the police station and just ask them about it?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you have a friend or relative present, but not you yourself?

[Anonymous]

I would have the police there if your gut feels iffy.

Do you think he may take something that isn't rightfully his?

Damage your home or property?

If so, definitely call the cops.

You may regret it later if you do not.

[Anonymous]

I'd call SWAT or the FBI instead. You really dont want to take any chances here. Hopefully they can send a tactical or armored unit at least for this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd call SWAT or the FBI instead. You really dont want to take any chances here. Hopefully they can send a tactical or armored unit at least for this situation.

[Anonymous]

Have a friend or two there. Not police unless he is a threat - in which case you shouldn't be there.

[Anonymous]

I think the advice to call the non-emergency line and talk to police good advice. Do you already have a lawyer? If this is progressing to this point sounds like you should and seek their advice. The disbelief expressed by some PP is just sad - if you feel nervous - def be safe and not let your guard down. You may want to have someone you trust there instead of you - with clear list of what he is allowed to take

[Anonymous]

He is leaving you. You are a shrew. That's why he left you. Call the cops?dear god good luck with your new BE bob.

[Anonymous]

I'd ask the police. If you have friends or family who can be there WITHOUT getting into a confrontation - as in you and your friend hang out in the kitchen or in the front yard while ex goes about his business, and you trust them not to start an argument (but to have the wherewithal to call 911 if ex starts and altercation with you) then ask a friend.

[Anonymous]

If you stage it carefully and cause a fight, you might get the cops to shoot him! Telling them he might be armed might help things too.

[Anonymous]

My husband is law enforcement in VA and it is against their department policy unless it is court ordered. You will need to call the non-emergency number or go to the police department and ask.