If you have kids how often do you go on dates

[Anonymous]

We have 2 kids and have date night once a week. In-laws babysit 2x a month and babysitters 2x a month.

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We don't drink or go to bars as we're practicing Muslims

OP here. Thanks. We don't drink or go to bars as a couple because DH doesn't drink (I go to a bar with friends or my mom maybe 3-4 times a year). I just like going to museums, movies, theater, dinner etc. with DH.

That's great. If we lived in D.C. I would want to go out more. We live in a boring college town now. There's no where I really want to go. I see my friends at the mosque every Friday afternoon and we have a dinner party every Monday evening. There are 5 or so families and we take turns hosting.

It sounds like you're only socializing with Muslim people, is that right? Why would you be so insular? I mean, I'm jewish and certainly don't only hang out with jewish people.

It's easier for me to make friends with immigrants. Lots of parents on here struggle to make friends. Surely you can understand.

No. I don't understand. There are Muslims here who are NOT immigrants, and there are immigrants here who are NOT Muslim. Do I have to put effort into making and maintaining friendships? Sure, but so does everybody. Since you're somewhat new to the country, here is something to know: segregation is bad, mmm'kay?

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Lol, good one

[Anonymous]

2 to 3 times a month. We have two kids and rely on a babysitter as we have no family around. We didn't do any date nights in our first three years as parents and it hurt our marriage. For us date night is a must. We also take one day month to spend the entire day with each other while the kids are in school. We both work but feel like a strong marriage is the best foundation for a happy family.

[Anonymous]

Not enough. Once every 4-5 months? We usually do something nice when work is closed and daycare is open on Columbus Day. Once I build my vacation time back up after 2 maternity leaves I'd like to take leave and do weekday day dates here and there.

[Anonymous]

Maybe a couple times a year. We most enjoy doing things as a family with our two children.

[Anonymous]

we get a sitter every other week. DW or I go out solo about every other week, so one or both of us have a social outing every week or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

We don't drink or go to bars as we're practicing Muslims

OP here. Thanks. We don't drink or go to bars as a couple because DH doesn't drink (I go to a bar with friends or my mom maybe 3-4 times a year). I just like going to museums, movies, theater, dinner etc. with DH.

That's great. If we lived in D.C. I would want to go out more. We live in a boring college town now. There's no where I really want to go. I see my friends at the mosque every Friday afternoon and we have a dinner party every Monday evening. There are 5 or so families and we take turns hosting.

It sounds like you're only socializing with Muslim people, is that right? Why would you be so insular? I mean, I'm jewish and certainly don't only hang out with jewish people.

Because there are no Jews in America who are insular with who they hang out with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have two kids, and go out as a couple once a week (just the two of us) and once a week with friends.

That's ridiculous.
Why bother having kids? Pls tell me you don't both work FT.

[Anonymous]

Once or twice a year if insist. im pretty sure it would be never if I didn't. Couch potato partner at 40.

[Anonymous]

Once a week from 4-930 pm is our time.

[Anonymous]

One evening every 3-6 weeks depending on babysitter availability.

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Anonymous wrote:We have two kids, and go out as a couple once a week (just the two of us) and once a week with friends.

I'm guessing there's a live-in nanny or grandparent who can watch your kids two nights a week.

No, we have neither. We do however, hire babysitters.

What do you spend a week on sitters?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We have two kids, and go out as a couple once a week (just the two of us) and once a week with friends.

That's ridiculous.
Why bother having kids? Pls tell me you don't both work FT.

I'm sure the kid is better off alive even if they're with other folks 2/7 nights.

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We don't drink or go to bars as we're practicing Muslims

OP here. Thanks. We don't drink or go to bars as a couple because DH doesn't drink (I go to a bar with friends or my mom maybe 3-4 times a year). I just like going to museums, movies, theater, dinner etc. with DH.

That's great. If we lived in D.C. I would want to go out more. We live in a boring college town now. There's no where I really want to go. I see my friends at the mosque every Friday afternoon and we have a dinner party every Monday evening. There are 5 or so families and we take turns hosting.

It sounds like you're only socializing with Muslim people, is that right? Why would you be so insular? I mean, I'm jewish and certainly don't only hang out with jewish people.

It's easier for me to make friends with immigrants. Lots of parents on here struggle to make friends. Surely you can understand.

No. I don't understand. There are Muslims here who are NOT immigrants, and there are immigrants here who are NOT Muslim. Do I have to put effort into making and maintaining friendships? Sure, but so does everybody. Since you're somewhat new to the country, here is something to know: segregation is bad, mmm'kay?

Something tells me you don't have any friends.