"How to spoil your baby mama on mother's day"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not needy. I don't celebrate Hallmark Holidays. I don't celebrate Mother's Day. My husband doesn't celebrate Father's Day. We don't do Valentine's or Sweetest Days. We don't do anniversaries.

What we DO do is show one another, in random ways on random days, that we love and care and appreciate.

The first year I wasn't able to celebrate either Mother's Day or Father's Day with my parents was a very sad day. Death stinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not needy. I don't celebrate Hallmark Holidays. I don't celebrate Mother's Day. My husband doesn't celebrate Father's Day. We don't do Valentine's or Sweetest Days. We don't do anniversaries.

What we DO do is show one another, in random ways on random days, that we love and care and appreciate.

I know it's cheesy but I *love* Mother's Day! Love getting cards and hugs from the kids, love that they want to bring me coffee in bed, love that we go out to brunch or dinner, love that they leave me alone for a bit to get a pedi or something. Love it!

[Anonymous]

Pp here. Will find time to hang out with MIL on Mother's Day even though she and I don't always get along. I try to keep in mind that I am teaching my kids how I want to be treated when they are out on their own.

[Anonymous]

I'd give anything to not be the primary Mother's Day focal point because it means I'm the only one alive and it really sucks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's my first mother's day and I am expecting my DH to plan something. After being pregnant for 40 weeks and then a mom for nearly a year, he's only one who will even know how much work it's been. Am I expecting too much for DH to plan it an be there for me? Or is he supposed to leave me with the baby to go out of town and celebrate with his mom?

It'll be my first mother's day as well. I've always been a does not celebrate Hallmark Holiday person, as another PP put it. However, I realized that, at least for this year, I really wanted some acknowledgement from DH for Mother's Day. Maybe it's because things have been so rough lately and I feel like I'm floundering and failing at this whole motherhood thing but I really, really would like some celebration on the day. However, I knew it would be wildly unfair to not TELL DH this, since he would normally expect me to not care about a holiday like this. So I let him know that I wanted to do something for Mother's Day this year, we talked out what I wanted (yes, I was that person that initially said "I don't know what I want, I just know I want something", I suck, I know), and we came up with a plan.

It's nothing much (I really want some plants for the house so we're going shopping for some and for DH will make a particular meal I like anytime in the next two weeks) but it feels important for some reason this year.

That sounds nice PP! The important part is that you communicated to DH that you wanted something special this year.

[Anonymous]

I think of mothers' day as being a day for kids to celebrate their own mothers (once they're old enough). I don't think of it as a spouse/partner holiday - DH isn't MY dad. I told DH to get a card and sign it from the kids and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

We have no local family so we always make sure to send something nice to mother/MIL for Mother's Day and to call to wish them happy mother's day, but we don't spend it with them.

The kids are too little to do anything (except the oldest makes a car, which is fun), so we use it as an excuse to have an extra date night and go out to a dinner and a movie that weekend. We do the same thing for father's day. It's a fun excuse for a special occasion.

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure my DH isn't planning anything. He's never done anything for my birthday, our anniversary, etc, so Mother's Day should be no different.

I wouldn't care that much except I overheard him talking to his mom about what he got her, and it's a really nice gift that took a lot of thought. I get that's his mom, but he's never done anything like that for me since we got married. But, this is the same guy who expected me to sleep on an air mattress 2 weeks postpartum so his parents could have our bed when they came to visit, lol.

I've learned to just order my own gift and pay with his credit card