What to expect when emerging from a dating hiatus (esp w using dating apps)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious how it works these days-- do you offer to pay and he declines for the first date? Or does no one offer much less pay for the first date (and do you ever pay)?

I always pay the first couple of dates. But I am beginning to resent it, and may quit dating soon. Sick of wasting $200 a month for nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious how it works these days-- do you offer to pay and he declines for the first date? Or does no one offer much less pay for the first date (and do you ever pay)?

I always offer to pay half on a first date. My offer is always declined. On a few dates, we have gone to another bar and I will buy drinks. I actually feel really bad if someone is always paying for me. I went out with a guy for a 4th or 5th date and gave the waitress my credit card before he got there. At the end of dinner, he had no choice but for me to pay. Yes....I expected sex after that

[Lonely_Sojourner]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious how it works these days-- do you offer to pay and he declines for the first date? Or does no one offer much less pay for the first date (and do you ever pay)?

I always offer to pay half on a first date. My offer is always declined. On a few dates, we have gone to another bar and I will buy drinks. I actually feel really bad if someone is always paying for me. I went out with a guy for a 4th or 5th date and gave the waitress my credit card before he got there. At the end of dinner, he had no choice but for me to pay. Yes....I expected sex after that

You sound like my kind of woman;would ask you to PM me as time permits...

L_S

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious how it works these days-- do you offer to pay and he declines for the first date? Or does no one offer much less pay for the first date (and do you ever pay)?

It goes like this:

Man whips out credit card, but woman does as well, despite her well knowing that if he doesn't put on a whole show insisting on him picking up the whole tab, she'll brand him as a cheapskate and not want to go on follow up dates and thus not have sex with him.

The end

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious how it works these days-- do you offer to pay and he declines for the first date? Or does no one offer much less pay for the first date (and do you ever pay)?

It goes like this:

Man whips out credit card, but woman does as well, despite her well knowing that if he doesn't put on a whole show insisting on him picking up the whole tab, she'll brand him as a cheapskate and not want to go on follow up dates and thus not have sex with him.

The end

Analysis: mostly true. If it's a good date and you both have time, it usually extends to a second location (bar or coffee) where the woman pays for the drinks.