12 year olds going to movies alone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh for God's sake, it first of all depends on the movie. Many parents i know won't let their kids see a PG movie. That's where you need to start. I didn't let my second grader see some of the movies her friends wanted to see because I knew she emotionally couldn't handle it.

What parent doesn't let their kids see a PG movie? That's beyond.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ I mean, what parent doesn't let a 12 yo see a PG movie.

[Anonymous]

Holy crap. We were going to movies by ourselves at eleven, sometimes just two of us getting dropped off. I can't believe people need to sit a couple of rows behind their kids at TWELVE. When do you cut the cord? And what do you think's going to happen at the movies?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap. We were going to movies by ourselves at eleven, sometimes just two of us getting dropped off. I can't believe people need to sit a couple of rows behind their kids at TWELVE. When do you cut the cord? And what do you think's going to happen at the movies?!

MOLESTERS (I assume that's what people think)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I definitely went to movies alone at that age

Don't make her be the dork whose mom Chaperones. No one will want to invite her next time

This past summer, right before 8th grade started, a mom of a girl at DD's school texted me to ask if DD wanted to go see a movie with her DD. I replied, "I don't know if DD's free - I'll text her and get back to you." I texted DD who had nothing else to do so agreed, and I told the mom DD would meet her DD there. She assured me she would drive DD home afterwards. I said, "Oh that's okay - it's still light out, so DD can walk home."

I got home from work and asked DD how the movie was. She said the mom STAYED. And SAT WITH THEM. And then tried to insist on driving DD home (we live less than a mile from the theatre, and DD walks further than that to get home from school). DD spent all of 7th grade going to the mall and movies and museums just with friends, no adults.

DD hasn't wanted to have anything to do with this girl outside of school since. She flat out said to me "If F's mom texts you about anything else, please say no. It doesn't matter what it is." Don't be that mom.

I can not imagine why you are sharing this story in a proud way? Your daughter does not sound like a kind, accepting girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I definitely went to movies alone at that age

Don't make her be the dork whose mom Chaperones. No one will want to invite her next time

This past summer, right before 8th grade started, a mom of a girl at DD's school texted me to ask if DD wanted to go see a movie with her DD. I replied, "I don't know if DD's free - I'll text her and get back to you." I texted DD who had nothing else to do so agreed, and I told the mom DD would meet her DD there. She assured me she would drive DD home afterwards. I said, "Oh that's okay - it's still light out, so DD can walk home."

I got home from work and asked DD how the movie was. She said the mom STAYED. And SAT WITH THEM. And then tried to insist on driving DD home (we live less than a mile from the theatre, and DD walks further than that to get home from school). DD spent all of 7th grade going to the mall and movies and museums just with friends, no adults.

DD hasn't wanted to have anything to do with this girl outside of school since. She flat out said to me "If F's mom texts you about anything else, please say no. It doesn't matter what it is." Don't be that mom.

I can not imagine why you are sharing this story in a proud way? Your daughter does not sound like a kind, accepting girl.

Yeah, it doesn't seem like a big deal to me that the mom stayed. Eight graders totally understand that some parents are more relaxed than others and from what I've seen go with the flow pretty easily. My DS wouldn't be bothered by a parent staying in the theater in another row.

[Anonymous]

I was going this at age 10 with super super strict parents. By 7th or 8th we'd take the public bus after school to the movie theater. nBD but I would give her the talk about "if a creepy man sits next to you...." and a talk about being respectful to other movie goers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I definitely went to movies alone at that age

Don't make her be the dork whose mom Chaperones. No one will want to invite her next time

This past summer, right before 8th grade started, a mom of a girl at DD's school texted me to ask if DD wanted to go see a movie with her DD. I replied, "I don't know if DD's free - I'll text her and get back to you." I texted DD who had nothing else to do so agreed, and I told the mom DD would meet her DD there. She assured me she would drive DD home afterwards. I said, "Oh that's okay - it's still light out, so DD can walk home."

I got home from work and asked DD how the movie was. She said the mom STAYED. And SAT WITH THEM. And then tried to insist on driving DD home (we live less than a mile from the theatre, and DD walks further than that to get home from school). DD spent all of 7th grade going to the mall and movies and museums just with friends, no adults.

DD hasn't wanted to have anything to do with this girl outside of school since. She flat out said to me "If F's mom texts you about anything else, please say no. It doesn't matter what it is." Don't be that mom.

I can not imagine why you are sharing this story in a proud way? Your daughter does not sound like a kind, accepting girl.

I had the same thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I definitely went to movies alone at that age

Don't make her be the dork whose mom Chaperones. No one will want to invite her next time

This past summer, right before 8th grade started, a mom of a girl at DD's school texted me to ask if DD wanted to go see a movie with her DD. I replied, "I don't know if DD's free - I'll text her and get back to you." I texted DD who had nothing else to do so agreed, and I told the mom DD would meet her DD there. She assured me she would drive DD home afterwards. I said, "Oh that's okay - it's still light out, so DD can walk home."

I got home from work and asked DD how the movie was. She said the mom STAYED. And SAT WITH THEM. And then tried to insist on driving DD home (we live less than a mile from the theatre, and DD walks further than that to get home from school). DD spent all of 7th grade going to the mall and movies and museums just with friends, no adults.

DD hasn't wanted to have anything to do with this girl outside of school since. She flat out said to me "If F's mom texts you about anything else, please say no. It doesn't matter what it is." Don't be that mom.

I can not imagine why you are sharing this story in a proud way? Your daughter does not sound like a kind, accepting girl.

Yeah, it doesn't seem like a big deal to me that the mom stayed. Eight graders totally understand that some parents are more relaxed than others and from what I've seen go with the flow pretty easily. My DS wouldn't be bothered by a parent staying in the theater in another row.

The other girl's mother didn't sit in a different row. She sat next to them. And we live in the city - all the kids go out together without adults regularly. That's part of being a city kid. My DD IS a kind and accepting girl. She just doesn't want to hang out with her friends' parents.

[Anonymous]

Let her go. Kids these days need to have more responsibility. Sixth grade is old enough to go to the movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I definitely went to movies alone at that age

Don't make her be the dork whose mom Chaperones. No one will want to invite her next time

This past summer, right before 8th grade started, a mom of a girl at DD's school texted me to ask if DD wanted to go see a movie with her DD. I replied, "I don't know if DD's free - I'll text her and get back to you." I texted DD who had nothing else to do so agreed, and I told the mom DD would meet her DD there. She assured me she would drive DD home afterwards. I said, "Oh that's okay - it's still light out, so DD can walk home."

I got home from work and asked DD how the movie was. She said the mom STAYED. And SAT WITH THEM. And then tried to insist on driving DD home (we live less than a mile from the theatre, and DD walks further than that to get home from school). DD spent all of 7th grade going to the mall and movies and museums just with friends, no adults.

DD hasn't wanted to have anything to do with this girl outside of school since. She flat out said to me "If F's mom texts you about anything else, please say no. It doesn't matter what it is." Don't be that mom.

I can not imagine why you are sharing this story in a proud way? Your daughter does not sound like a kind, accepting girl.

Yeah, it doesn't seem like a big deal to me that the mom stayed. Eight graders totally understand that some parents are more relaxed than others and from what I've seen go with the flow pretty easily. My DS wouldn't be bothered by a parent staying in the theater in another row.

The other girl's mother didn't sit in a different row. She sat next to them. And we live in the city - all the kids go out together without adults regularly. That's part of being a city kid. My DD IS a kind and accepting girl. She just doesn't want to hang out with her friends' parents.

The apple doesn't fall far away from the tree. Your daughter does not sound very nice, and we can understand why you don't see it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I definitely went to movies alone at that age

Don't make her be the dork whose mom Chaperones. No one will want to invite her next time

This past summer, right before 8th grade started, a mom of a girl at DD's school texted me to ask if DD wanted to go see a movie with her DD. I replied, "I don't know if DD's free - I'll text her and get back to you." I texted DD who had nothing else to do so agreed, and I told the mom DD would meet her DD there. She assured me she would drive DD home afterwards. I said, "Oh that's okay - it's still light out, so DD can walk home."

I got home from work and asked DD how the movie was. She said the mom STAYED. And SAT WITH THEM. And then tried to insist on driving DD home (we live less than a mile from the theatre, and DD walks further than that to get home from school). DD spent all of 7th grade going to the mall and movies and museums just with friends, no adults.

DD hasn't wanted to have anything to do with this girl outside of school since. She flat out said to me "If F's mom texts you about anything else, please say no. It doesn't matter what it is." Don't be that mom.

I can not imagine why you are sharing this story in a proud way? Your daughter does not sound like a kind, accepting girl.

Yeah, it doesn't seem like a big deal to me that the mom stayed. Eight graders totally understand that some parents are more relaxed than others and from what I've seen go with the flow pretty easily. My DS wouldn't be bothered by a parent staying in the theater in another row.

The other girl's mother didn't sit in a different row. She sat next to them. And we live in the city - all the kids go out together without adults regularly. That's part of being a city kid. My DD IS a kind and accepting girl. She just doesn't want to hang out with her friends' parents.

The apple doesn't fall far away from the tree. Your daughter does not sound very nice, and we can understand why you don't see it that way.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 12 yo DD said a bunch of girls and boys from her class (6th grade) wanted to go to the movies Friday. I told her that was fine but because this situation was new to me I would have to talk with her father and think about if it was okay to go without an adult. I asked her what she would think if her brother and I went to the same movie but sat a couple rows back to chaparone. She wasn't pleased but seemed okay with it.

Thoughts as to whether I should chaparone or not? Also tips for chaperoning movie outings would be greatly appreciated.

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Chaperone. Sit in the back away from the kids but definitely be there.

12 yr olds as a group are just obnoxious and they still need an adult to step in every now and then and remind them to act appropriately in public. They will still run in big groups of kids, they will giggle and be loud, etc.

OP here. This is what I was thinking too. Turns out some kids couldn't go if an adult wasn't going so my daughter volunteered me to chaperone Wish me luck!

[Anonymous]

Twelve is a little young without an adult sticking around although if a group of kids and you don't particularly care for the movie you could hangout at a nearby coffeeshop.

One story I tell all the time -- nice sunny Saturday I am dropping my kids and a couple of friends off to see a movie. At the time we were in the midwest and this was a very nice suburbia town. There is a drop off lane in front of the theatre. My kids have taken off into the theatre but I have to wait while a minivan full of 13/14 year old girls lets them get out. They get out -- van takes off, but I still can't get out as another car noses in their spot. NBD, but as I sit there for the extra 30 seconds I see one girl come back out of the theater obviously checking to see if parent has driven away. Upon confirmation -- the group comes back out of the theatre -- off to hang out in town for a couple of hours.

Could they get into much trouble? No, not really. A few hours walking around suburbia town in mid-afternoon on a nice day. But . . . not what they told the parents.

[Anonymous]

My 12 year old yes.
Assuming we approved of the movie.

I generally run some errands and meet her at a set time and place. No problems so far.