Do I need a prenup if I am poor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a prenup now so you won't need one later.

A friend married poor, they both had successful careers, now it's 30 years later and hubby is starting to have a wandering eye.... but he'd be SO SOL under the prenup. Kid is protected too with college and life insurance obligations and other restrictions.

Highly, highly recommend.

This is kind of my situation except I've only been married six years. Husband is basically a bum, but is now scrambng two get new freelance gigs. I'm not sure if he's buying because he senses that I've talked to a divorce lawyer) or if he's really serious about working.

Either way the only way I'd be willing to see if he's serious is if he signed a postnup. Is there such a thing and is it recognized?

It's called a marital agreement and it is generally recognized in VA, can't speak for the other jurisdictions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only would if you two plan on one parent being a SAHP for an extended period. Otherwise, without assets, you are marrying as virtual equals and will hopefully stay in the marriage, or you agree in advance to part as equals.

We had a trust on my side and each owned homes etc so a trust was a must for us.

DW and I have everything joint, including a reasonably large inheritance from my side of the family, and she will have been a SAHM for two years before she goes back to work. I don't have a problem with the idea of pooling all our assets; it's not like I did anything to earn the inheritance, other than be lucky in my choice of which family I was born into, so if we split up for some reason, I don't know why I should keep 100 percent of it.

Mm hmmm. Get back to me about your hypothetical sharing after your spouse cheats on you. It's easy to talk about how equitable you are while you are happily married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only would if you two plan on one parent being a SAHP for an extended period. Otherwise, without assets, you are marrying as virtual equals and will hopefully stay in the marriage, or you agree in advance to part as equals.

We had a trust on my side and each owned homes etc so a trust was a must for us.

DW and I have everything joint, including a reasonably large inheritance from my side of the family, and she will have been a SAHM for two years before she goes back to work. I don't have a problem with the idea of pooling all our assets; it's not like I did anything to earn the inheritance, other than be lucky in my choice of which family I was born into, so if we split up for some reason, I don't know why I should keep 100 percent of it.

Mm hmmm. Get back to me about your hypothetical sharing after your spouse cheats on you. It's easy to talk about how equitable you are while you are happily married.

It'd be too late to do anything about it, so I guess PP is going to be equitable whether he likes it or not in that situation.