Waitlisted - what does that mean for my daughter?

[Anonymous]

You've been all the way through the application process including open houses, personal tours, shadow days, interviews and competing of the application.

Now your DD has been put on the waitlist and the strategy that is being recommended is proclaiming that the school is you number one choice and enlisting teachers, priests, alumni or whoever to write letters.

I may be cynical, but where was all this effort during the regular admissions process. Or was your stance that you were just shopping, just comparing alternatives, and that this decision that Visi was the only place your DD could be truly happy occurred after you got the WL letter.

It couldn't be that there were some rejection letters in the mail too?

If I was the Admissions office, I'd be curious as to then this seemingly new realized conviction that our school is your number one chance occurred and why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've been all the way through the application process including open houses, personal tours, shadow days, interviews and competing of the application.

Now your DD has been put on the waitlist and the strategy that is being recommended is proclaiming that the school is you number one choice and enlisting teachers, priests, alumni or whoever to write letters.

I may be cynical, but where was all this effort during the regular admissions process. Or was your stance that you were just shopping, just comparing alternatives, and that this decision that Visi was the only place your DD could be truly happy occurred after you got the WL letter.

It couldn't be that there were some rejection letters in the mail too?

If I was the Admissions office, I'd be curious as to then this seemingly new realized conviction that our school is your number one chance occurred and why.

Yikes, PP. I'm a different poster, OP, here to encourage you to take the advice of other posters, and ignore the above. Being informed of a wait list status is not unique to applicants only at Visi and it does provide an opportunity for your daughter to buttress her case for her application. Yes, you should have your daughter write a letter to Admissions and, if you are able, to get additional recommendations from folks familiar to the school. Visi is a special place and the little bit of extra effort is worth it. We know several girls who have moved off of the wait list in prior years and it was because they took the extra steps after being informed of their wait list status. The staff in the Admissions Office knows and expects that they will hear from girls who really want to attend Visi. Spots will open up and your daughter will want the staff of the Admissions Office to know that Visi is her top choice and why they should select her. Best wishes to your daughter and I hope that it all works out for her!

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a lot of work, although very reasonable of this is truly daughters first choice. How many girls do you think get into the school who are not legacies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a lot of work, although very reasonable of this is truly daughters first choice. How many girls do you think get into the school who are not legacies?

??? I'm not sure why you are pushing so hard on this line of posting and because of your continued antagonistic postings I am thinking that you are not a friend of Visi and just trolling for a fight.

Regardless, if the girl really wants to go to Visi then certainly it would be worthwhile to write one additional letter advocating her case. And to ask one family to write a letter also supporting the girl's good fit for Visi. Neither action seems too extreme or 'a lot of work' as you put it.

Again, this is not a situation unique to Visitation. It happens at other schools that applicants are placed on the wait list. In this case, it makes perfect sense for OP's daughter to continue to support her application to help move off of the wait list.

FWIW our first daughter was NOT a legacy and we had absolutely no prior affiliation with the school. Our second daughter clearly had a relationship with the school because of her sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't she go to a better school?

I'm thinking your DD got a rejection.

[Anonymous]

OP are you catholic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a lot of work, although very reasonable of this is truly daughters first choice. How many girls do you think get into the school who are not legacies?

Well, of the 10 girls from my DD's elementary school that got in to Visi in a recent year one was a legacy or sibling. So my answer would be 90% non legacy. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can't she go to a better school?

I'm thinking your DD got a rejection.

No, my DD toured that school and hated it. I loved it - she hated it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a lot of work, although very reasonable of this is truly daughters first choice. How many girls do you think get into the school who are not legacies?

Well, of the 10 girls from my DD's elementary school that got in to Visi in a recent year one was a legacy or sibling. So my answer would be 90% non legacy. YMMV.

Thank you. When I reread my question I realized it could be taken as mean. That wasn't my intent. It was a legitimate question bc I just didn't know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can't she go to a better school?

I'm thinking your DD got a rejection.

No, my DD toured that school and hated it. I loved it - she hated it.

She's not a 'bow in her hair kind of girl'. If you look at some of sports teams they are all wearing preppy bows in their hair. In high school. It's just a bow sure, but that kind of uniformity was not for her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can't she go to a better school?

I'm thinking your DD got a rejection.

No, my DD toured that school and hated it. I loved it - she hated it.

She's not a 'bow in her hair kind of girl'. If you look at some of sports teams they are all wearing preppy bows in their hair. In high school. It's just a bow sure, but that kind of uniformity was not for her.

So that means there is a "better" school?

I don't get the bashing of schools. I have 2 DDs who did not choose to apply to Visi but I can still acknowledge that it is a great school for the kids who fit there. Both of my girls have lovely, bright, athletic, and talented friends there - but we knew in a minute it was not for our also lovely, bright, athletic, and talented ( ) kids. I don't trash it because it didn't fit my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can't she go to a better school?

I'm thinking your DD got a rejection.

No, my DD toured that school and hated it. I loved it - she hated it.

She's not a 'bow in her hair kind of girl'. If you look at some of sports teams they are all wearing preppy bows in their hair. In high school. It's just a bow sure, but that kind of uniformity was not for her.

Is this true? High school girls wearing bows in their hair? My girls haven't worn bows in their hair since they were 5 years old. That is just weird and, frankly, a little creepy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can't she go to a better school?

I'm thinking your DD got a rejection.

No, my DD toured that school and hated it. I loved it - she hated it.

She's not a 'bow in her hair kind of girl'. If you look at some of sports teams they are all wearing preppy bows in their hair. In high school. It's just a bow sure, but that kind of uniformity was not for her.

Is this true? High school girls wearing bows in their hair? My girls haven't worn bows in their hair since they were 5 years old. That is just weird and, frankly, a little creepy.

My 8th grader wore a bow in her ponytail last week and it looked sweet. She's a lacrosse player though and that's fairly common. Not sure why it seems to offend the PP, I would rather a cute bow than some of the items I've seen teen girls wear!

[Anonymous]

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have her write a letter to the Dean and the Admissions department . She should tell them her reasons why she wants to go to Visi. She can also say why she would be a good student. What does she hope to accomplish at Visi. If you have a good friend (teacher,alumni someone from your church) who could write a reference letter for her that would help.

Good luck to your daughter and don't give up hope.

Yes, this. When our daughter was waitlisted at Visi, she hand-delivered a handwritten letter that stated she was willing to wait until August to get off the waitlist. We also had a couple of current Visi families who knew her well write letters on her behalf. And finally, we had two or three people who knew our daughter write letters on her behalf. We did all this quickly and sincerely. It truly was her first choice. She was the first one off the waitlist.