Got into argument w/Ex and he teased me about having MS

[Anonymous]

Well, OP- know that you have support on here. Sending you love, a hug, and a prayer. You are okay and you will get through it. He is a loser. As my grandmother would tell me, "Consider the source" (as in- don't listen or care about the opinions of someone you do not respect)

Keep your chin up. Big hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He said that he hopes I end up in a wheelchair. Not even sure why he was so mad, but the argument was no where near serious enough to ever say something like that. Especially considering that he knows my illness has progressed as of December. I am so hurt.

That's not teasing. That's verbally abusing you. big difference. Try to limit contact with him.

[Anonymous]

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My mother has MS, and sometimes we joke about it, as a family. It's better to laugh than cry about it!

You seem a tad on the sensitive side, OP. The ex should not succeed in getting a rise out of you so easily.

Given the fact that OP seems genuinely upset about it, why would you assume it was some lighthearted teasing?

Seems like you are the one who is a tad on the insensitive and socially inept side. You should not make assumptions or be so flippant to someone who's quiet clearly upset

Sigh. If you knew how to read, you'd have read I understood that perfectly.

OP has MS. Life is difficult for her, and will be for the foreseeable future. Bullying from the ex should be water off a duck's back. My aunts, back in the day when MS was less known, said the most horrible things to my mother: told her she was feigning so that she wouldn't have to work, told her she was crazy, accused her of having AIDS, etc... Unfortunately, being chronically ill brings this galaxy of social issues that you might not have expected, and you get to find out who your real supporters are. In my mother's case, it was her boyfriend, who carried her up and down the stairs to their apartment and married her.

Tough love, OP: you'll have to be stronger than that. Your real supporters will come, but you have to be strong as well.

When was MS less known? I knew people in the 80s who had MS, and also people who had AIDS. I guess I don't understand the reference.

[Anonymous]

OP, what your ex said was not what anyone in their right mind would consider teasing. It's a downright abusive (verbally / mentally / emotionally) thing to say. I am SO sorry that he said that you, I am so sorry that he doesn't value you, and I wish I could give you a big hug right now. If at all possible, I encourage you to minimize contact with him. Just because you have a child in common, doesn't mean you have to endure such abuse by your ex. Please, please, please find another way - for your own well-being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:
My mother has MS, and sometimes we joke about it, as a family. It's better to laugh than cry about it!

You seem a tad on the sensitive side, OP. The ex should not succeed in getting a rise out of you so easily.

Given the fact that OP seems genuinely upset about it, why would you assume it was some lighthearted teasing?

Seems like you are the one who is a tad on the insensitive and socially inept side. You should not make assumptions or be so flippant to someone who's quiet clearly upset

Sigh. If you knew how to read, you'd have read I understood that perfectly.

OP has MS. Life is difficult for her, and will be for the foreseeable future. Bullying from the ex should be water off a duck's back. My aunts, back in the day when MS was less known, said the most horrible things to my mother: told her she was feigning so that she wouldn't have to work, told her she was crazy, accused her of having AIDS, etc... Unfortunately, being chronically ill brings this galaxy of social issues that you might not have expected, and you get to find out who your real supporters are. In my mother's case, it was her boyfriend, who carried her up and down the stairs to their apartment and married her.

Tough love, OP: you'll have to be stronger than that. Your real supporters will come, but you have to be strong as well.

Np here. You sound awful.

[Anonymous]

OP, what's your question?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, there's nothing funny or cool about using a debilitating illness as a jab. He is my exhusband and we have kids

Does his name start with a T? Older?

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind that he's your ex for many reasons beyond that he's an insensitive asshole. Shake it off and be happy that he's your ex!

[Anonymous]

I have a Ph.D. and would never tease my wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a Ph.D. and would never tease my wife.

Cool story bro. Next time you might try posting a comment that is actually necessary or relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My mother has MS, and sometimes we joke about it, as a family. It's better to laugh than cry about it!

You seem a tad on the sensitive side, OP. The ex should not succeed in getting a rise out of you so easily.

Given the fact that OP seems genuinely upset about it, why would you assume it was some lighthearted teasing?

Seems like you are the one who is a tad on the insensitive and socially inept side. You should not make assumptions or be so flippant to someone who's quiet clearly upset

Sigh. If you knew how to read, you'd have read I understood that perfectly.

OP has MS. Life is difficult for her, and will be for the foreseeable future. Bullying from the ex should be water off a duck's back. My aunts, back in the day when MS was less known, said the most horrible things to my mother: told her she was feigning so that she wouldn't have to work, told her she was crazy, accused her of having AIDS, etc... Unfortunately, being chronically ill brings this galaxy of social issues that you might not have expected, and you get to find out who your real supporters are. In my mother's case, it was her boyfriend, who carried her up and down the stairs to their apartment and married her.

Tough love, OP: you'll have to be stronger than that. Your real supporters will come, but you have to be strong as well.

You sound like a really difficult and clueless person. Please get out of this thread and leave OP alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He said that he hopes I end up in a wheelchair. Not even sure why he was so mad, but the argument was no where near serious enough to ever say something like that. Especially considering that he knows my illness has progressed as of December. I am so hurt.

It was a cruel thing to say especially if you were in the middle of an argument. There is nothing "teasing" about what he said. He meant it to hurt you and it did.

I agree with the people who suggest using email or texts to communicate with him from now on. Only when you have to.

[Anonymous]

OP, I have Cerebral Palsy and an ex who used to try to use it against me. As if I couldn't handle things on my own because of it. I could see him saying something cruel like that, too.

He wasn't teasing. Consider the source. He is your ex, fortunately.

I am sorry he upset you.

To the PP with sister who has MS? You sound awful. Yes, my family did the tough love thing. Sometimes half an ounce of understanding would have been appreciated.. especially from my family. Your family wasn't just cruel. Faking? How many years ago WAS this? Accusing her of having AIDS? That's not tough love. That's just BS.

[Anonymous]

That wasn't teasing OP, it was straight up hateful with intent to hurt. And it did.

Limit your talks with him about the kids only and if he does it again say yeah, I have MS but it doesn't stop me from calling you a stupid asshole and shooting you my middle finger dick face. Of course do that only away from the kids OR you can write it out with a thick bold marker and flash it to him when the kids aren't looking.

BTW, teasing is what my husband does to me. I have RA and he calls me Crip. Yes I laugh. It's never meant in an ugly tone.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry op he was such an ass. I'm glad you aren't with him any longer. Stay strong & Huge hugs!