Fate of Frozen Embryos

[Anonymous]

Vikki,

Thanks for posting...I was always someone who strongly supported adoption. My mom has 4 adopted first cousins (3 different families) and I have two good friends and one cousin with adopted children. I know the wonderful experience it had brought to those I love. Now in this situation with 2 or 3 FE and I can't believe the difficulty I am having with the possibility of allowing adoption. Your post comes very timely for me. We have not made the decision as yet whether to try again or not, but I will try to keep your post in my thoughts as I weigh the options.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I justed wanted to thank you all for your insightful postings. More than anything, it is comforting to be reminded that we are not alone in making these decisions. We do not yet know what we will do, but I feel that I've been able to wrap my mind around the relevant questions a bit more easily since my initial posting. And a particular thank you and best wishes to Vickie. You are a good reminder that there are loving families whom we could help to have children of their own. If anyone has additional thoughts, please do post.

[Anonymous]

OP, we are in the same situation as you. We actually participated in a longitudinal study through UCSF that looked at how couples make this decision. I share many of the thoughts and feelings that you and other posters have mentioned. For now our embryos remain in storage, but I don't know how long DH will agree to that given the storage fee of over $500 a year. My heart tells me to try to get pregnant with the embryos, but to not transfer more than one or two at a time. We don't have too many left, since DC was a FET and we had to thaw a number of embryos to have that successful pregnancy. We lost a lot of them in the thawing process. It is really a difficult question. Glad to know others struggle with it too. . . .