Can't wait until my brother divorces his wife

[Anonymous]

Your wishing homelessness and divorce on your brother and his family.

That is pretty terrible.

[Anonymous]

If she truly is borderline, I would think there'd be worse stories than the ones you've shared here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister in law holds the kids hostage from my parents and uses them as bribes for money. My parents paid for half the house and she told me she's not selling until they die, because she doesn't want to give the money back. The days she's all about family, yet plans events when no one on my brothers side can attend. We have holidays booked, she plans parties while we are away. She's so mean to my brother.

They don't currently have plans to divorce, but my parents and I are crossing our fingers and hope the day comes soon. Divorced family is better than this b*tch.

Don't hold your breath. I understand your frustration because my brother is also married to an abusive woman. My SIL is both emotionally and physically abusive. She has said nasty things about my child with autism .

I've been where you and your parents are.

The thing is it's not likely your brother will divorce her. For reasons you will never understand he loves her. She will always be part of your life even if they divorce .

I learned the hard way the best you and your parents can do is be supportive and loving of your brother. Let him know that you miss seeing him and the kids at events and to tell you dates that work for his family so you can see them. Ask for a time to visit them.
If you live near enough try and meet for lunch or a coffee just to talk. If he agrees don't bad mouth his wife . Talk about shared favorite child memories, sports teams, work, bond, don't berate him he get enough of that at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everything you posted in your replies suggest you are completely crazy. Have fun attacking someone in an anonymous forum where no one can assess the facts to determine just how crazy you are. From the facts you have posted here, you are crazy. Then you added more to try to delegitimize her further. You need to see a therapist. Stay away from your brother and let him live his life. You sound like poison.

+1

+2. Some posters come across as totally loopy. You can just hear the crazy based on their emotional and unbalance postings. They are clearly not reliable narrators. This is one of those times.

[Anonymous]

OP,
Your SIL could very well be a deliberately cruel person.
However, very few people who do cruel things really are cruel. Usually it's because they are highly fearful/anxious and controlling and have never been treated.
If you can stop for a moment and see your SIL in a more compassionate light, try to understand where she's coming from, perhaps you will find a way to work this out.
This anger and frustration you're feeling is not a healthy way to live, *for you*. For your own sake, you must stop thinking like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually we don't thrive on drama- I'm perfectly pleasant and fake to her as she is to me. And yes, my brother is a spineless mute. He says he stays for the kids.

Yet you are the one posting on dcum and hoping she sees it. That, my friend, is the very definition of thriving on drama.

[Anonymous]

OP here- SIL spanks the kids, yells, sits them in front of the TV for hours, feeds them frozen dinners, doesn't clean and stays home all day but we are the crazy ones. Everyonr in her family is divorced, her ex fiancé put a restraining order on her when she keyed his car and threw a rock through his window when he dumped her. But I'm wrong to want better for my brother, ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- SIL spanks the kids, yells, sits them in front of the TV for hours, feeds them frozen dinners, doesn't clean and stays home all day but we are the crazy ones. Everyonr in her family is divorced, her ex fiancé put a restraining order on her when she keyed his car and threw a rock through his window when he dumped her. But I'm wrong to want better for my brother, ok.

You're REALLY reaching here. And the semi-valid things you post are none of your business and make you look very haughty. Lemme guess - your family is monied or upper middle class and proper. They're not. It's uncomfortable for you. Am I close?

[Anonymous]

OP, I hope you find medication that works for you. You are probably the sister of her bubba?

[Anonymous]

You are acting like a jealous ditched ex. Something is so off here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- SIL spanks the kids, yells, sits them in front of the TV for hours, feeds them frozen dinners, doesn't clean and stays home all day but we are the crazy ones. Everyonr in her family is divorced, her ex fiancé put a restraining order on her when she keyed his car and threw a rock through his window when he dumped her. But I'm wrong to want better for my brother, ok.

You're REALLY reaching here. And the semi-valid things you post are none of your business and make you look very haughty. Lemme guess - your family is monied or upper middle class and proper. They're not. It's uncomfortable for you. Am I close?

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Op here- yes, I'll admit that. My family is old money, but my husband came from nothing and is a hard worker and a good person and he fits right in.

[Anonymous]

Op again- SIL in law has threatened in the past to take half of everything, the house, his business. But surprise it's all in a trust and he has a prenup. She married him for money.

[Anonymous]

I think this is pretty standard ugly-married-fight, OP. Plus, it's not egregious in the least for a married person to want half. That's...what's the word...FAIR.

I see now: a trust. She's beneath your station. Get over it. You sound pretty ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

[b]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is pretty standard ugly-married-fight, OP. Plus, it's not egregious in the least for a married person to want half. That's...what's the word...FAIR.

I see now: a trust. She's beneath your station. Get over it. You sound pretty ridiculous.

Op here- Ummm yes it is wrong to want half when she has never had a job and the money and the house and the business were there long before her. It's not a standard SAHM, she has three nannies who by the way also think she's crazy. I know this because my brother sends them here on the sly to visit with us and the kids. Fine, you guys think I'm crazy but this felt great to vent so thanks for that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[b]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is pretty standard ugly-married-fight, OP. Plus, it's not egregious in the least for a married person to want half. That's...what's the word...FAIR.

I see now: a trust. She's beneath your station. Get over it. You sound pretty ridiculous.

Op here- Ummm yes it is wrong to want half when she has never had a job and the money and the house and the business were there long before her. It's not a standard SAHM, she has three nannies who by the way also think she's crazy. I know this because my brother sends them here on the sly to visit with us and the kids. Fine, you guys think I'm crazy but this felt great to vent so thanks for that!

I'm curious what the arrangement is with you being a third member of their marriage. Is it formal? Legal? Weird sometimes?