Thank you card question

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Anonymous wrote:People who don't send a quick thank you note or email stop receiving gifts.

Then you aren't sending GIFTS, because gifts are given without any strings attached.

That's actually not the definition of a gift. At least not according to the dictionary. Or Miss Manners. Or any etiquette book. I select and purchase gifts because I enjoy doing it, and because I want to get something the gift recipient will appreciate/enjoy. If the recipient cannot bother to acknowledge the gift, I assume they did not like it/want it, and I stop purchasing gifts for that person - bonus, a person who has no sense of manners is not someone for whom I want to purchase gifts anyway.

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01/13/2017 23:56

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who don't send a quick thank you note or email stop receiving gifts.

Then you aren't sending GIFTS, because gifts are given without any strings attached.

That's actually not the definition of a gift. At least not according to the dictionary. Or Miss Manners. Or any etiquette book. I select and purchase gifts because I enjoy doing it, and because I want to get something the gift recipient will appreciate/enjoy. If the recipient cannot bother to acknowledge the gift, I assume they did not like it/want it, and I stop purchasing gifts for that person - bonus, a person who has no sense of manners is not someone for whom I want to purchase gifts anyway.

Ha - from a Miss Manners column (January 8, 2017) titled, "Stop Sending Gifts to Relatives Who Never Acknowledge Them":
"Rather, let us assume that people who ignore presents find it a burden to receive them. Therefore, the most tactful response would be to stop sending them."

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01/14/2017 17:53

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Anonymous wrote:My mom demands we write thank you notes but never writes them back. Its very annoying.

Send her something for Valentine's Day and then hound her until you get one.

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01/14/2017 17:57

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Anonymous wrote:I have always written thank you cards. I've noticed though that our parents, aunts/uncles, and grandparents do not EVER write us thank you cards. Not even when we've thrown anniversary parties for them or gifted them large things like dishwashers. Do thank you cards only go to people younger than yourself? Most of the time I have no clue if my grandparents got our gift or even liked it.

Is this a sign that they no longer want gifts? Should I stop sending them thank you cards too? (I had a baby last year and feel like I have thank you card PTSD. I wrote over 100 of those things and never want to receive a gift ever again if I can help it)

I have never received a thank you note from any of the older people in my family, yet they are the ones counting the days until they receive one from the latest baby shower or birthday. It's a sense of entitlement.

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01/15/2017 14:59

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I thank people in person, over the phone, or via email and text promptly when I receive a gift. I haven't written a paper thank you note in many years but do send out a few holiday, birthday, baby, wedding and condolence cards each year. From the demise of Hallmark, I see I am not alone.