Anyone here divorce in their 50s feel life is better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 50s seem to be relatively content to not share the house and the bed at night. I've been told this, and certainly there is no shortage of women who write about enjoying the peaceful life. I can't speak for other single men my age, but I miss the coexisting.

We are done of taking care of everyone. Having my own space and freedom from cooking, cleaning and laundry is worth it.

I still love sex but I love my space.

[Anonymous]

Well, enjoy your space! That is exactly what you'll have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, enjoy your space! That is exactly what you'll have.

better than being expected to be treated like a sugar momma by someone only a couple years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, enjoy your space! That is exactly what you'll have.

She may also have lots of friends when she wants to get out. Even kids and grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 50s seem to be relatively content to not share the house and the bed at night. I've been told this, and certainly there is no shortage of women who write about enjoying the peaceful life. I can't speak for other single men my age, but I miss the coexisting.

Women miss peaceful coexisting even more. But showing weakness is not cool, so they mostly put up a fake happy facade.

OP, it depends. Is your married life truly awful? If you know you'll be better off alone, then go for it. Don't divorce in hopes to find a better spouse in the future. Yes, there are hopeful stories out there, but that's all they are. Be realistic about what you want and what you can get. Generally, trading up in your 50s is a losing proposition for a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Women miss peaceful coexisting even more. But showing weakness is not cool, so they mostly put up a fake happy facade.

"women" aren't all the same.

clearly, some want a relationship. some absolutely need to be in one. others, not so much.

i couldn't live with anyone else at this point. i value my independence, enjoy the solitude, and am relieved i am not responsible for anyone else.

my life is so selfish now. and i love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Women miss peaceful coexisting even more. But showing weakness is not cool, so they mostly put up a fake happy facade.

"women" aren't all the same.

clearly, some want a relationship. some absolutely need to be in one. others, not so much.

i couldn't live with anyone else at this point. i value my independence, enjoy the solitude, and am relieved i am not responsible for anyone else.

my life is so selfish now. and i love it.

Do you care about sex, or is that why you're divorced?

[Anonymous]

My best friend put two decades in to a marriage with a depressed person who wouldn't seek help and couldn't hold a job. It is the " won't seek help " part that ultimately led to the breakup. No scumbags lots of sadness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 50s seem to be relatively content to not share the house and the bed at night. I've been told this, and certainly there is no shortage of women who write about enjoying the peaceful life. I can't speak for other single men my age, but I miss the coexisting.

We are done of taking care of everyone. Having my own space and freedom from cooking, cleaning and laundry is worth it.

I still love sex but I love my space.

One Thousand Times, Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Husband has problem. Seems mental. Can't figure it out. He was just fired. He is emotionally and otherwise unavailable to himself or me. I need a divorce and have children. Has anyone said enough in their fifties, become a single parent and live to feel better and enjoy life after the upheaval of divorce? Is there a way to divorce without upheaval? Husband seems willing. TIA.

Well men, this is yet more proof, if you needed it, that the SECOND you outlive your usefulness to a woman or show any weakness, you are dead to her and she will discard you like a lemon that is squeezed dry.

For women, all that "for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse" stuff is just going through the motions, and you better not count on them actually meaning it.

You mean, just like men trade in their wives for a trophy wife?

[Anonymous]

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Women miss peaceful coexisting even more. But showing weakness is not cool, so they mostly put up a fake happy facade.

"women" aren't all the same.

clearly, some want a relationship. some absolutely need to be in one. others, not so much.

i couldn't live with anyone else at this point. i value my independence, enjoy the solitude, and am relieved i am not responsible for anyone else.

my life is so selfish now. and i love it.

Do you care about sex, or is that why you're divorced?

Self gratification is better than any sex ever was

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 50s seem to be relatively content to not share the house and the bed at night. I've been told this, and certainly there is no shortage of women who write about enjoying the peaceful life. I can't speak for other single men my age, but I miss the coexisting.

We are done of taking care of everyone. Having my own space and freedom from cooking, cleaning and laundry is worth it.

I still love sex but I love my space.

And freedom from cleaning up after everyone else - I'm sure that is something to savor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Women miss peaceful coexisting even more. But showing weakness is not cool, so they mostly put up a fake happy facade.

"women" aren't all the same.

clearly, some want a relationship. some absolutely need to be in one. others, not so much.

i couldn't live with anyone else at this point. i value my independence, enjoy the solitude, and am relieved i am not responsible for anyone else.

my life is so selfish now. and i love it.

Do you care about sex, or is that why you're divorced?

Self gratification is better than any sex ever was

Sounds like you've spent a lifetime with the wrong men.

[Anonymous]

Yep we have, and its too late to meet one that available (usually) so why not make lemonade?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 50s seem to be relatively content to not share the house and the bed at night. I've been told this, and certainly there is no shortage of women who write about enjoying the peaceful life. I can't speak for other single men my age, but I miss the coexisting.

We are done of taking care of everyone. Having my own space and freedom from cooking, cleaning and laundry is worth it.

I still love sex but I love my space.

Hopefully you're not on dating sites then unless you are explicit about not looking for a relationship.