My baby is going to be the death of me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in this situation and was diagnosed with a heart condition right after my daughter's first birthday. I could have typed your post to the word- I felt like I was really stuck and wasn't going to get through it and that my body was breaking down. People told me it was anxiety or PPD and I even got checked by a doctor who didn't think Meds were appropriate for my symptoms. It took an ER visit and hospital admission for the heart diagnosis, and I had a really scary stretch before I was properly medicated and recovered. I'll have surgery soon. After the diagnosis I got a mother's helper for a couple times per week, but I haven't found the perfect solution for intermittently being "on" 24/7 while DH is away for long stretches. Please check your physical health at the same time you check your mental health!

I'm so sorry op. What is the heart condition ?

Sorry I am op!

[Anonymous]

I remember feeling the same way when my four babies were born. They were all criers. And when I noticed other mom's babies didn't cry as much as mine, I was convinced I was doing something wrong, and the stress set in and took over. But I came to learn that every baby is different, and I needed to accept the fact that my babies cried. I wasn't doing anything wrong, just loving them in the way I knew how to do at the time.

You might be experiencing panic attacks. I had those with my fourth child when the demands were greater than I what I was able to cope with. The onset of these attacks sounds very similar to what you describe. Extreme anxiety. Have you been to the doctor about this? Any negative mental, emotional and physical symptoms all wrapped up together can cause some real imbalance in the way we handle ourselves. One affects the other. If the doctor is able to detect a problem in any one of these areas, you will then be able to pinpont the problem a little more accurately, and begin to do something about it. By doing so, you will start to feel more in control of yourself.

As humans, we can never control what is going on around us, and yes, stress can be a part of our everday life. But the secret is to know what your trigger points are and have a plan as to how you will address it. In your case it might be calling for help. Having a caretaker come into your home, even while you're there if you prefer, will take some of the pressure off. You can use that time to tend to your own emotional needs, and let the baby be in the arms of someone else.

I had to go to God many times in prayer, asking Him to do for me what I could not do myself. Me and my babies were all wired differently, and I needed help on making our family and home life a peaceful place. God has been so gracious to me over the years, and lead me to some wonderful doctors and counselors that knew way more than I did, and offered some remedies to bring that peace into my life. I will be praying the same can happen for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am incredibly stressed out taking care of my 7 month old to the point it's causing health problems. A few days ago I had chest pains and today I am having a sharp pain in the side of my ribs. I know I need to have the babysitter come tomorrow but what can I do to help my stress go down tomorrow. My husband is great but he works long hours. He's out of town for another week. I've been doing this solo for 12 days now. Our baby is hard. He cries often and he demands to be held. I have been letting him cry it out instead of holding him but that's hard too. I got ear plugs today. Tia.

While your husband is out of town, call let mommy sleep. they have nurses who are $30-40/hr but can watch your baby overnight. it is worth it. My husband was out of town 3 weeks while my LO was a baby and it was a lifesaver.

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