I want to scream at my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband on this thread? The responses are crazy. I would be livid, too. Definitely get the hotel room. Hang in there.

+1
There have been a lot of pathetic men on here since Donald. OP, I would be furious too. Is he always a thoughtless guy? What's he talking about, when you wake him up?

DH said that there was a link from Reddit here when that woman running for a spot on the DC school board came here and publicly trashed talked her opponent (something about a turkey neck?). I think some of the neckbeards from reddit stuck around to troll since the responses are all generally the same (I bet you don't have a job, shut up and be grateful, you sound like a b*tch, etc).

DCUM can be a rough place but the snark is usually of a higher caliber than the "make me a sammich" level of discourse these trolls are bringing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband on this thread? The responses are crazy. I would be livid, too. Definitely get the hotel room. Hang in there.

+1
There have been a lot of pathetic men on here since Donald. OP, I would be furious too. Is he always a thoughtless guy? What's he talking about, when you wake him up?

DH said that there was a link from Reddit here when that woman running for a spot on the DC school board came here and publicly trashed talked her opponent (something about a turkey neck?). I think some of the neckbeards from reddit stuck around to troll since the responses are all generally the same (I bet you don't have a job, shut up and be grateful, you sound like a b*tch, etc).

DCUM can be a rough place but the snark is usually of a higher caliber than the "make me a sammich" level of discourse these trolls are bringing.

NP here - interesting! I think that was the thread where the woman running for school board, like, made an account with her actual email address to post (rookie mistake lol) and then blamed it on her intern and Jeff came in and was all "no you just did this today, I looked up your account creation date." Interesting that made it to Reddit and would explain some of the posts I've been seeing where the tone just doesn't match with what I'm used to seeing on here.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't get at the big picture issue but you could try putting do not disturb on your phone at night if. I started that during maternity leave when MIL liked to text/face time at 4am.

Hope you get some sleep soon!

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If you can't take care of one child by yourself, you should never have had a child. You are a grown woman, ACT LIKE ONE AND STOP WHINING!

[Anonymous]

Im going on 12 weeks of sleep deprivation w preemie twins and a husband who is always working and doesn't help. So I understand. But it also could be worse for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't slept 4 hours straight since the kid was born 3 years ago, and yes, I also work.
So no sympathy here since it's doable.

This is why America sucks as a country. It's a race to the bottom.

When will people understand that there is no medal for having a miserable existence?

In Germany women get 1 year of maternity leave and they can go back to their jobs. In France it's standard for new mom's to get help at least once a week. Only in a America do people do people brag about their misery and wear it with pride. People in other first world countries prefer to be civilized.

OP I'm sorry your husband is being inconsiderate. That sucks.

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You can't blame your husband on your insomnia and being awake for nightly feedings. It sucks, yes, but you can't put that on him.

As for calling at midnight - well, he's probably exhausted too and was probably hoping to vent to you about how tired he is (a different type of tired, but still "tired"). Plus, I'm sure he wanted to reach out to you too. He probably fiugured you were awake since you are (always) complaining about not sleeping often. Give him the benefit of the doubt...he was trying to be nice and well intentions.

Keep your post partum emotions in check. It's tough. All of us moms with newborns (+subsequent kids) have BTDT and feel like DHs never seem to step up or purposely do things that are inconsiderate, etc.

[Anonymous]

Try melatonin, it helps you fall asleep quickly but doesn't keep you in a deep sleep so you will still hear the bavy

[Anonymous]

Did you flip out on your DH when he called? Did you let him know it wasn't acceptable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't so I'll just vent here instead. Husband is out of town so I've been on round the clock baby duty all week. I have insomnia where if I wake up at night I can't fall back asleep and since I'm the only one doing feedings this week, I've been getting 4-5 hours of sleep per night for the past week. Once shes up at 3am, I'm up for the day. I also can't nap and I'm completely exhausted.

Stupid husband calls me at friggin' midnight to tell me he's done working after I told him many times do NOT call unless it's an emergency. So now tonight I'll be getting three hours of sleep. Thanks husband. I'm so pissed. When he gets back I'm going to stay in a hotel for a couple nights, I really can't take any more sleep deprivation.

Of course he just says "well now you know how I feel when you wake me up". No dude, me waking you up when you're sleeping in until noon on the weekends is totally not the same.

Why is he out of town? Is he off partying with the guys or is he working to put food on your table?

There are other things that require sacrifice besides taking care of a newborn. Stop being such a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't slept 4 hours straight since the kid was born 3 years ago, and yes, I also work.
So no sympathy here since it's doable.

This is why America sucks as a country. It's a race to the bottom.

When will people understand that there is no medal for having a miserable existence?

In Germany women get 1 year of maternity leave and they can go back to their jobs. In France it's standard for new mom's to get help at least once a week. Only in a America do people do people brag about their misery and wear it with pride. People in other first world countries prefer to be civilized.

OP I'm sorry your husband is being inconsiderate. That sucks.

+100

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I would kill for 4-5 hours of sleep. I have a 2.5 year old and 6 week old premie. I am getting about 3-4 hours of broken sleep a night. I'm breaking. Oh and I have 18 weeks maternity leave but can tell that I'm expected to start working from home asap. DH co plains about being tired because he wakes in the guest room when he hears me doing feelings. I could kill him! He offered to wake up and help but there's really nothing for him to do since I'm breastfeeding. Ugh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't slept 4 hours straight since the kid was born 3 years ago, and yes, I also work.
So no sympathy here since it's doable.

This is why America sucks as a country. It's a race to the bottom.

When will people understand that there is no medal for having a miserable existence?

In Germany women get 1 year of maternity leave and they can go back to their jobs. In France it's standard for new mom's to get help at least once a week. Only in a America do people do people brag about their misery and wear it with pride. People in other first world countries prefer to be civilized.

OP I'm sorry your husband is being inconsiderate. That sucks.

There is a plane that leaves every day for Germany or France. Be on tomorrow's flight and don't come back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't slept 4 hours straight since the kid was born 3 years ago, and yes, I also work.
So no sympathy here since it's doable.

This is why America sucks as a country. It's a race to the bottom.

When will people understand that there is no medal for having a miserable existence?

In Germany women get 1 year of maternity leave and they can go back to their jobs. In France it's standard for new mom's to get help at least once a week. Only in a America do people do people brag about their misery and wear it with pride. People in other first world countries prefer to be civilized.

OP I'm sorry your husband is being inconsiderate. That sucks.

True. However, these women still face issues and are often very mommy tracked because of the long amount of time they are out of the workforce on leave. Many women in these countries work part time. There's no utopia.

[Anonymous]

OP, I had the same insomnia and my husband did not do any feeds even when he wasn't traveling. At some point I learned to nap with the baby which helped a lot. Not sure what made me be able to nap. It may just have been the exhaustion.