If my son rides the bench, should my wife facebook brag after all the games?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's highly embarrassing, to me. Private school, I think he only made the team because the coach was being nice aka charity case. My wife won't stop facebooking every game as if our boy has anything to do with their success.

As potentially the only male to respond to this post. The answer is yes, your wife should not be doing this. Your kid knows that they didn't play and that there is nothing to be proud of. The only two possible outcomes are 1) it embarasses the kdis, or 2) the kid slowly learns to believe that he is actually accomplishing something. Neither are good.

Sounds like just making the team is a good enough accomplishment. But after congratulating the kid for that, there no need to pretend it is anything more than that.

Female here and I have to agree.

Another female - agree. It's awkward to see this on Facebook.

- Mom of bench riders and varsity starters.

[Anonymous]

Guy here... your wife should stop. She is not helping your son or teaching him anything of value. If anything she is reenforcing that you do not have to work hard to succeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here... your wife should stop. She is not helping your son or teaching him anything of value. If anything she is reenforcing that you do not have to work hard to succeed.

Wait, why is it assumed this kid is not working hard? I think it is great that he is on a team and feels a part of it. He probably works very hard during practices. So what if he is one of the weakest players.

And if the mom wants to post about his games, why not? He is part of the team. This is what moms do on facebook. They brag about their kids. There is nothing wrong with it, and in fact, I would prefer this over people bragging about their own accomplishments.

[Anonymous]

Dads generally suck.. This post is one of many examples.

More examples can be found on the sidelines of sporting events.

[Anonymous]

What does she brag about? Them winning? I don't think there's anything wrong w/ that in and of itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dads generally suck.. This post is one of many examples.

More examples can be found on the sidelines of sporting events.

Pretty sure "dad" is a teenager

[Anonymous]

^^Are there many teenage boys on DCUM? I have two myself and I'm going to say NO, there are not.

[Anonymous]

I think y'all are talking Facebook a little too seriously. Does any teenager care what their mom posts about a game?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here... your wife should stop. She is not helping your son or teaching him anything of value. If anything she is reenforcing that you do not have to work hard to succeed.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^Are there many teenage boys on DCUM? I have two myself and I'm going to say NO, there are not.

Yes, there are. Especially on some of the school threads where it's pretty recognizable. I assume they think it's funny to troll the adults. Maybe they get here via the explicit forum?

[Anonymous]

Personally, I like hearing my friends brag about their kids. If it gets to be too much I scroll past, easy peasy.

I'd much rather hear about a harmless thing like a sporting team than some recapped-overshared conversation, or see seventy five pictures of a homecoming proposal.

[Anonymous]

If "dad" is the teenager being bragged about while riding thte bench, then perhaps:

a) he should talk to mom directly, and

b) mom shouldn't post.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like Mom needs the world to know her kids at a private school. I'd be afraid of his teammates or their parents reading it and teasing the bench warmer.

[Anonymous]

The OP's wife is using the soccer games to faux-coy brag about her son being at a private school. See this all the time from private families; they also use private school charity functions, church events, etc.

[Anonymous]

The correct term is riding the pine.

And there is nothing wrong with that unless your kid is in his final year of playing. He's there to watch the technicalities of his sport. This is not a charity position. He has some skills that have just yet to be defined.

And Dad, do your part. You should be home coaching your kid instead of being ashamed. At least your wife cares.