What is considered marrying well?

[Anonymous]

I hate posts like this. Do you realize how good we've got it here? We don't "have" to marry. At all. We can support ourselves. We should marry because we want to, not because we have to.

This post reminds me about how my North African relatives talk about marriage. There, women are so heavily pressured to marry, and to marry for money. They are still viewed primarily as their worth in a financial transaction. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marrying well for me is marrying a man who I absolutely love, respect, trust, attracted to, helps me be a better person and we have the same future goals, college educated, ambitious, health conscious, adventurous, intutive, super friendly, opinionated, understanding, has common sense, we earn similar income level ( I make 100k) etc. I'm a fair person what I expect from a guy is what I already offer or bring to table. If he brings more than my expectations I'm truly blessed in that marriage.

This, 100%. I wouldn't want to marry someone who couldn't pay the bills but salary is mostly irrelevant to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me marrying a well endowed guy is marrying well.

I an so sorry that you have a large vagina. Has it always been that way?

NP

Vaginas are made up of muscles and stretch. If yours doesn't, it may be vaginismus. You see a therapist about your fear of sex.

[Anonymous]

It depends on how much your dad makes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marrying well for me is marrying a man who I absolutely love, respect, trust, attracted to, helps me be a better person and we have the same future goals, college educated, ambitious, health conscious, adventurous, intutive, super friendly, opinionated, understanding, has common sense, we earn similar income level ( I make 100k) etc. I'm a fair person what I expect from a guy is what I already offer or bring to table. If he brings more than my expectations I'm truly blessed in that marriage.

That's quite a list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much money does the guy have to make?

150k?

200k?

300k+?

I feel sorry for the guy you marry. He will never make enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marrying well for me is marrying a man who I absolutely love, respect, trust, attracted to, helps me be a better person and we have the same future goals, college educated, ambitious, health conscious, adventurous, intutive, super friendly, opinionated, understanding, has common sense, we earn similar income level ( I make 100k) etc. I'm a fair person what I expect from a guy is what I already offer or bring to table. If he brings more than my expectations I'm truly blessed in that marriage.

What about sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our family is rather well-off but my older sister is currently dating and likely soon to be engaged to the son of a man who is consistently on the Forbes 400 list. While their family has considerably more money than ours, he (my sister's boyfriend) constantly tells people that he's definitely dating up / dating well because of the values my sister has instilled in him. Values he never really cared about before meeting her. He went from jet-setting to a different party in a different country every day to starting his own (now very successful) biz, volunteering and giving back, fixing his relationships with his family, giving up drugs and alcohol, and just becoming a better person overall since he and my sister started dating. She's taught him to focus less on material goods and more on living in the moment and experiencing life with his loved ones and it's like he's this entirely different person - motivated and happy in a way we never thought would be possible for this guy. He says it's because my sister makes him want to be a better person and that he'd do anything to make himself worthy of her. To me, this epitomizes marrying well - marrying the person who pushes you to be the best person you can be, who teaches you new things, and who makes you experience life in a new and beautiful way.

So what does he do to make HER a better person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our family is rather well-off but my older sister is currently dating and likely soon to be engaged to the son of a man who is consistently on the Forbes 400 list. While their family has considerably more money than ours, he (my sister's boyfriend) constantly tells people that he's definitely dating up / dating well because of the values my sister has instilled in him. Values he never really cared about before meeting her. He went from jet-setting to a different party in a different country every day to starting his own (now very successful) biz, volunteering and giving back, fixing his relationships with his family, giving up drugs and alcohol, and just becoming a better person overall since he and my sister started dating. She's taught him to focus less on material goods and more on living in the moment and experiencing life with his loved ones and it's like he's this entirely different person - motivated and happy in a way we never thought would be possible for this guy. He says it's because my sister makes him want to be a better person and that he'd do anything to make himself worthy of her. To me, this epitomizes marrying well - marrying the person who pushes you to be the best person you can be, who teaches you new things, and who makes you experience life in a new and beautiful way.

Anonymous wrote:So what does he do to make HER a better person?

PP here. He put zest back into her life. She really struggled after her last breakup and he brought back her joy for life. While she's quite successful, he's encouraged her to do and achieve more professionally resulting in bigger and better clients for her firm and he's also supporting her dream of starting a non-profit she's always talked about. He's also taught her something we all tried to teach her - that it's okay to be selfish and to do things for yourself. She's always been the girl to worry and think about others, missing out on living life for herself, and he's taught her that she can do that while also fulfilling her own desires. They complement each other well and for a girl who had sworn off love, I'm glad she's found someone like him. It was painful to see her so hurt before.

[Anonymous]

Marrying well conventionally means marrying uber wealthy men — think Melinda gates

[Anonymous]

If you're both happy or not. Can always make more money. I've been around some "well to do" couples and.... they're both sleeping around and can't stand each other. Nice marriage, right????

Me thinks not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me marrying a well endowed guy is marrying well.

+1
Yes!

[Anonymous]

Does your spouse love and respect you? Do you laugh with them often? Do you share a common view of the marriage and your life and future together? Is the sex satisfying? Well then, you married well.

[Anonymous]

Really? No mention of money?

Dumb.

Around here? Less than 100k will put considerable stress on the family. More than 300,000 and you can breath a bit. IMO.

[Anonymous]

Marrying well means marrying someone who complements you and makes you want to be the best person you can be.