How do I become a guy that a woman won't leave if I want to cheat/have an affair?
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Anonymous
| You have to be rich. |
Anonymous
STFU. Say that when you have kids to think about. I left, but I would never judge a person for staying. |
Anonymous
I left, too, but it's always hilarious to me what people say when they haven't been in a situation. Some people stay because it is the best of their awful choices. They don't want to give up experiencing 50 percent of their children's lives. I didn't have kids and could easily walk away and cut ties completely. |
Anonymous
This is not a goal. No. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Have a marriage that's about mutual benefit and convenience, not love. We have family in Kuwait where some men have three or four wives. These women aren't at all heartbroken and according to them, there are only two conditions that make it possible: a) have lots of money, and b) don't care. They are fond of their husbands and all but if these men were to drop dead tomorrow, the wives would shrug and say, eh, life goes on. They just don't care, and they married not caring. |
Anonymous
+ 2 But really, let's be honest, it's the shit ton of money that is necessary in the first place. Odds are, OP is fails on that score or he wouldn't be asking this question. He'd already know what it's like to be hella rich. |
Anonymous
This. When I was younger, and we had no kids, the calculus was a lot different. I'm still not sure I'd stay, but the crazy amount of effort and cost in a divorce with 4 kids, and then the idea of potential new mates, more children (him, not me -- I'm too old), step-everything, scheduling, court, etc.? There are now circumstances in which I'd stay and at least try to work it out. Not saying I wouldn't have an affair of my own at some point, too, though, if it happened. |
Anonymous
| Ask Hillary. |
Anonymous
| I think there are some cultures (French, Italian, some Latino) that tolerate a degree male philandering. Some even feel that you are a little light in the loafers, or a bit of a goody-two-shoes, if you are a man who doesn't fool around a bit. |
Anonymous
Marry a SAHM eho has zero career potential anf have 3 kids. Your problem is youare dating women who are withbyou at their pleasure. You need a dependent. |
Anonymous
This. Have a bunch of kids, be a great dad to them, help a lot around the house, and make apt of money. She won't know how she could live without you. |
Anonymous
Actually, since divorce can be financially devastating, I think people who aren't rich might be more effected by a divorce, have less options, and end up staying. |
Anonymous
| Well you have to be ok to be in a relationship where you are not with your best friend, or even if you think you are, she doesn't think this anymore. You have to be ok with the fact that your DW has made peace with the fact that YOU are not her hero, or best friend anymore. |
Anonymous
| The key is to have a great personality or be hot and date someone beneath your level. You would know if you were capable of it, you're clearly not. |