Years ago, about 15 years before his retirement my father lost his job so I gave him some money

[Anonymous]

Basically she called you a liar? Or she did?

What actually went on here, from beginning to end.

[Anonymous]

OP, what is wrong with you?

Your poor parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now he we are years later and my mother is saying that this never happened.

OP, how did the subject come up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be frustrated too. I might not care if my father had told my mother or not, but if her reaction to the news was to call me a liar instead of asking him if it was true I'd be pissed as well.

This. Of course you'd be angry if you were called a liar to your mom!

[Anonymous]

I'm confused. Why did this happen? What brought up the story? And why did you feel the need to do this?

[Anonymous]

OP - it was me! I borrowed your money, not your dad! your memory must be going.

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Anonymous wrote:WHY? Why did you make your dad lose face like that? For what purpose?

You must be a woman. Men don't take the blame for others, easily. People who benefitted from another's money should be aware of the "gift."

OP, you should demanded an apology.

NP here. No. A guy would either demand that the money be repaid after about a year or two or would completely forget about it. He would never go and dig up something from 15 years ago to be petty. Women never forget anything and never let things go.

[Anonymous]

OP did not say this was 15 years ago. She said it was years ago 15 years before her father retired. Who knows how long ago father retired? It could have been 20-25 years ago.

And OP is probably female. Women tend to hold onto things so they can throw it out at just the right time. Women do this all the time. My female friends, co workers, other parents, sisters, etc all do this. OP however has taken this type of behavior to new lows though.

[Anonymous]

I would never disrespect my parents no matter what but then I have manners. Something OP doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Not enough context. But If they are asking for money again, I understand why you would not want to let this go.

[Anonymous]

Why is this even an issue? It's your Dad. I'm sure he paid for a lot of stuff for you growing up. Why not give the money and forget it?

[Anonymous]

Seriously? She did them a favor and then they turned around and a) acted like it never happened and b) had the audacity to call her a liar about it? Who is ungrateful here? If I was her, I'd set the record straight too. Don't ask for a gift of money and then refuse to acknowledge it. It's not her fault those are her parents so she doesn't "owe" them money whenever they ask for it.

[Anonymous]

Asshole move OP. It's petty to bring it up and it's disrespectful to force your dad to tell your mom.

Clearly your dad didn't tell your mom all those years ago because he already felt like a loser for being jobless and taking money from his daughter was probably a pretty low point for someone that considers themselves the "provider'' of the family.

Your mom probably couldn't believe that your dad would have kept that from her, not that she straight up thinks you're a liar.

Very juvenile to bring this up so many years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother was also not working at the time so I gave him some money to cover basic expenses so they would not have to reach into their savings.
Now he we are years later and my mother is saying that this never happened.
Basically she called me a liar.
So I forced my father to tell her which he just did.
My mother immediately shut her mouth and sat down and tried to change the subject.

I do not want the money back I just wanted my father to admit to her that this in fact did happen.
I did not anticipate my mother calling me a liar and insulting me.
I feel terrible about this but this was a battle I was not going to lose.

Why would you FORCE your father into this? Clearly, your mother didn't know your dad asked you for money and he was too embarrassed to tell her that he did it. So when she now says "this never happened", as far as she's concerned, she's right.
You say you don't want the money back, but you refuse to lose this "battle". You sound like a total and utter bitch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother was also not working at the time so I gave him some money to cover basic expenses so they would not have to reach into their savings.
Now he we are years later and my mother is saying that this never happened.
Basically she called me a liar.
So I forced my father to tell her which he just did.
My mother immediately shut her mouth and sat down and tried to change the subject.

I do not want the money back I just wanted my father to admit to her that this in fact did happen.
I did not anticipate my mother calling me a liar and insulting me.
I feel terrible about this but this was a battle I was not going to lose.

Oh man, but you did didn't you? You feel terrible because you won the battle but lost the war. Permanent damage done which is sad.