Twin parents -- What did you do when your twins want different b'day parties?
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Anonymous
My brother and I are not twins, but were born on the same day. We each got a party every other year. |
Anonymous
| Twin mom here: We did both at the same time in a large venue where they could invite many people, like laser tag. It was getting too expensive to have separate parties. We let them have a smaller "get together" lunch or something separately, but if you start paying for separate, specialty parties that will add up very quickly. There are other expenses with twins, so most people need to conserve some money. Sometimes mom has to draw the line. |
Anonymous
| If it's all the same kids, I'd force one party. |
Anonymous
| Can you do what one twin wants as the party and what the other twin wants as a special family outing for just your nuclear family? And then add in any extra incentives necessary to make the deal fair? Like, the twin who doesn't get the desired party activity DOES get to choose the party food. Or whatever. It's hard to guess in the abstract. |
Anonymous
If they were siblings with different birthdays you wouldn't make them share. Stop being cheap and making them a packaged deal. |
Anonymous
Not the PP but absolutely. They deserve their own party. Combo parties suck. I guess you expect each parent to purchase EACH of your kids a present for ONE party? It screams cheap |
Anonymous
| I give them their own birthday parties. They are individual people with individual personalities. |
Anonymous
PP here. I should have mentioned they are B/G twins- so girls at the complicated party at home, boys to CEC. That's the plan, anyhow. |
Anonymous
But it probably wasnt the same guest list ... |
Anonymous
| I don't have twins but I cannot believe that people think OP should throw two parties! They have the same friends and were born on the same day. I would tell them you will spend X amount of money and tell them how much each place costs. Let them figure it out or the party is going to be at Y place. Another option is is to alternate years for which twin picks the party details. For this year, let a game of rock, paper scissors decide which twin picks. |
Anonymous
Oh, ok (I'm the PP). I assumed from the lack of additional details that you were in the same boat as the OP who said that her twins were in the same class and had the same friends. So rather than have two parties where you are inviting all of the same people twice, merge the parties. In your case, you are talking different groups, so have two parties. In your case, I'd save yourself the hassle and try to do two parties on different weekends. This works when the birthday falls on Mon-Fri, you can put one on the weekend before and on the weekend after. If the birthday is on Saturday or Sunday, you might have to do two parties in one weekend. |
Anonymous
You don't think it's a pain inviting the exact same guests to two parties either the same weekend or back-to-back weekends? With 9 yo kids, I'd be afraid that you'd have the problem that 2/3 or 3/4 of the friends would show up for one party and virtually none for the other party because of dates/times/conflicts/themes and you'd have one kid that was disappointed. We also do a big party on a weekend (like a venue party) and then do something smaller for just our nuclear family on the actual day of the twins birthday. When they get older, I'll probably do something like alternate each year, letting one twin pick the big venue and the other picking plans for the actual birthday and switch the next year. |
Anonymous
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Two parties with the same guest list? Forget it!!! One party.
My twins are boy/girl and have separate friends...and we've still just had one big party some years! |
Anonymous
PP here. That's true -- mostly different guest lists with 2 or 3 invited to both. We've also done joint parties (twins are in 4th grade now)..depends on what the kids want. If they wanted the same kids but different parties, I would say no. |
Anonymous
I wouldn't. Siblings on born on the same day would get one party at my house. |