Class rules are invite entire class or invite no one at all - Will party day/time impact attendance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is absurd. Obviously you shouldn't exclude just a few kids, but how can the teacher regulate birthday parties like this? At our school, there are guidelines, but not rules.

I agree.invite your child's friends and tell the school to stuff it!

[Anonymous]

I'd ignore that and just invite who your kid wants. I never invite the whole class. The school can't dictate what you do on weekends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is absurd. Obviously you shouldn't exclude just a few kids, but how can the teacher regulate birthday parties like this? At our school, there are guidelines, but not rules.

I agree.invite your child's friends and tell the school to stuff it!

+1 This is ridiculous. Teacher gets ZERO say in your weekend activities. Tell DC not to talk about the party in school and sent invites directly to the kids homes or parents' emails.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of the teacher or school's business who you invite to a party.

I can see not allowing invites to be handed out at school unless the whole class is invited, but the school can't stipulate who you can invite to the party. Plenty of people can't fit 28 guests in their home or afford a giant party venue. Those kids can't have birthday parties?

One of ds's teachers said that the only time invitations could be handed out at school was when the entire class was invited.

Nobody can tell you you "have" to invite the whole class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask your child who are his/ her good friends, ask teacher for their parents email and send invitations privately. Easy

Don't ask your child's teacher for parent emails. This is not their place and they do not want to get involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of the teacher or school's business who you invite to a party.

I can see not allowing invites to be handed out at school unless the whole class is invited, but the school can't stipulate who you can invite to the party. Plenty of people can't fit 28 guests in their home or afford a giant party venue. Those kids can't have birthday parties?

One of ds's teachers said that the only time invitations could be handed out at school was when the entire class was invited.

Nobody can tell you you "have" to invite the whole class.

You're right if OP is in public. You are wrong if you are in a private school that actually sets rules for this in the handbook. Our old private did. It was the entire class or nothing. In upper grades, it could be all girls or all boys. By the way, please don't have it on a Sunday. Some of us actually go to church. We finally had to just set a rule "no more birthday parties" because the Sundays were wrecked, kids had a sugar buzz on and couldn't finish homework, couldn't go to bed. I'm sure Jews will say the same for Saturday, but in our case it was an episcopal private.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of the teacher or school's business who you invite to a party.

I can see not allowing invites to be handed out at school unless the whole class is invited, but the school can't stipulate who you can invite to the party. Plenty of people can't fit 28 guests in their home or afford a giant party venue. Those kids can't have birthday parties?

One of ds's teachers said that the only time invitations could be handed out at school was when the entire class was invited.

Nobody can tell you you "have" to invite the whole class.

You're right if OP is in public. You are wrong if you are in a private school that actually sets rules for this in the handbook. Our old private did. It was the entire class or nothing. In upper grades, it could be all girls or all boys. By the way, please don't have it on a Sunday. Some of us actually go to church. We finally had to just set a rule "no more birthday parties" because the Sundays were wrecked, kids had a sugar buzz on and couldn't finish homework, couldn't go to bed. I'm sure Jews will say the same for Saturday, but in our case it was an episcopal private.

Nobody asked about your timing preferences pp. The world doesn't revolve around you, your schedule, your church, and the inability of your children to control themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of the teacher or school's business who you invite to a party.

I can see not allowing invites to be handed out at school unless the whole class is invited, but the school can't stipulate who you can invite to the party. Plenty of people can't fit 28 guests in their home or afford a giant party venue. Those kids can't have birthday parties?

One of ds's teachers said that the only time invitations could be handed out at school was when the entire class was invited.

Nobody can tell you you "have" to invite the whole class.

You're right if OP is in public. You are wrong if you are in a private school that actually sets rules for this in the handbook. Our old private did. It was the entire class or nothing. In upper grades, it could be all girls or all boys. By the way, please don't have it on a Sunday. Some of us actually go to church. We finally had to just set a rule "no more birthday parties" because the Sundays were wrecked, kids had a sugar buzz on and couldn't finish homework, couldn't go to bed. I'm sure Jews will say the same for Saturday, but in our case it was an episcopal private.

Nobody asked about your timing preferences pp. The world doesn't revolve around you, your schedule, your church, and the inability of your children to control themselves.

Actually, OP did ask about timing, in case she followed the rule and wanted to find a time to keep the numbers down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of the teacher or school's business who you invite to a party.

I can see not allowing invites to be handed out at school unless the whole class is invited, but the school can't stipulate who you can invite to the party. Plenty of people can't fit 28 guests in their home or afford a giant party venue. Those kids can't have birthday parties?

One of ds's teachers said that the only time invitations could be handed out at school was when the entire class was invited.

Nobody can tell you you "have" to invite the whole class.

You're right if OP is in public. You are wrong if you are in a private school that actually sets rules for this in the handbook. Our old private did. It was the entire class or nothing. In upper grades, it could be all girls or all boys. By the way, please don't have it on a Sunday. Some of us actually go to church. We finally had to just set a rule "no more birthday parties" because the Sundays were wrecked, kids had a sugar buzz on and couldn't finish homework, couldn't go to bed. I'm sure Jews will say the same for Saturday, but in our case it was an episcopal private.

Nobody asked about your timing preferences pp. The world doesn't revolve around you, your schedule, your church, and the inability of your children to control themselves.

Actually, OP did ask about timing, in case she followed the rule and wanted to find a time to keep the numbers down.

Perfect do it on Sunday so folks like the pp can't make it.

[Anonymous]

No school can enforce this. As long as you mail or email invites, do whatever you want. I can see that they don't want them handed out at school. I've never invited the entire class. Not everyone has that kind of money and unless the school is going to foot the bill, they cannot enforce this rule.

[Anonymous]

This must be a private school.

[Anonymous]

I'd invite all the boys or girls, but not the entire class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is absurd. Obviously you shouldn't exclude just a few kids, but how can the teacher regulate birthday parties like this? At our school, there are guidelines, but not rules.

I agree.

Is the school paying for the parties? Most venues cost a lot more when you get into those kinds of numbers and most people do not have a house large enough for 30 kids plus the parents/siblings that inevitably tag along

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of the teacher or school's business who you invite to a party.

I can see not allowing invites to be handed out at school unless the whole class is invited, but the school can't stipulate who you can invite to the party. Plenty of people can't fit 28 guests in their home or afford a giant party venue. Those kids can't have birthday parties?

One of ds's teachers said that the only time invitations could be handed out at school was when the entire class was invited.

Nobody can tell you you "have" to invite the whole class.

You're right if OP is in public. You are wrong if you are in a private school that actually sets rules for this in the handbook. Our old private did. It was the entire class or nothing. In upper grades, it could be all girls or all boys. By the way, please don't have it on a Sunday. Some of us actually go to church. We finally had to just set a rule "no more birthday parties" because the Sundays were wrecked, kids had a sugar buzz on and couldn't finish homework, couldn't go to bed. I'm sure Jews will say the same for Saturday, but in our case it was an episcopal private.

Do your kids have some sort of health issue where a piece of cake and a capri sun at an afternoon birthday party gives them a sugar buzz so intense that they can't concentrate on homework and are too wired togo to be?

I would talk to your doctor about that if I were you. That is not a normal effect to sugar, especially since you say your kids are old enough for homework.

[Anonymous]

This is the rule at our private, but it only applies If you bring invitations to school. You can invite who you want if you do it outside of school hours.