Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He should really try to consciously shake off military habits that don't fit with the civilian agency's culture. Life as a civilian will be different, even if uncle Sam is still signing the paycheck.
By all means, be the creative leader you were in the service. It is what makes vets such valuable contributors. But dont call anyone ma'am. If the office is business casual, dress business casual. If people manage by consensus, obtain consensus.
Sometimes vets hold onto military habits out of pride or a sense of identity, or because they are so ingrained they don't realize they are doing it, but they don't understand that it can send a signal to others (wrongly) that they don't feel the need to"join the team." Everyone has to adapt to new environments, even vets. There are a lot of resources on the web to help with this.
Unless he is at DoD. Then it won't be an issue.
yes, this. I can spot the veterans in my civilian agency immediately because they all call me ma'am. I am 38 years old. I'm sure they're being respectful but it's not something that anyone else in civilian agencies would do.