How do you deal with teenage attitudes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont' agree that this behavior is normal. Yes, they can get moody and experience mood swings, but in no way it is normal to treat the parent disrespectfully. It didn't happened just now. Your acceptance of this behaviour will only serve as approval. I have one teenager (16) and one pre-teen girls. In no way they would ever roll their eyes at me or their dad. With the tone, watch how do you talk to them. They have tendency to copy your behaviour.
Pointing out their behaviour is a good thing because they may not even realize that what are they doing is unexeptable. Remember, they are still kids, even if they taller than you. Yes, my 10 y.o. came this morning and started complaints on the kitchen that the oatmeal is too liquidy, and that I should not put fresh berries in it. After I explained to her that if she wants to have the oatmeal made to her liking, she should start making it herself. I told her it is totally unexeptable to make comments like that after I put an effort to cook a breakfast for everyone. She apologized and ate breakfast and said thank you for the breakfast.

Well aren't you high and mighty. It's easy to be a perfect parent when you have easy kids.

[Anonymous]

When I remember what a b*tch I was to my mom during my teen years I can't believe she still talks to me. I can't believe my own behavior! I hope I remember that when my kids are teens, and I hope I survive.

[Anonymous]

My 13 y old has much of the bad attitude you describe but still respects my authority when push comes to shove. What works for me is to note the attitude and ignore a lot and when it gets to be too much, I'll pull her aside and either tell her she needs to go to her room until she is more enjoyable to be around. If we are in public, I'll take her phone and explain that "clearly she needs a technology break if she can't relate to real humans decently."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rolled my eyes at my mom once . I was beaten sooo bad. Learned my lesson real quick.

That is helpful information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP - maybe it is considered normal these days, but there is really no reason to put up with the attitude. Mine is 18, and we never tolerated any of the crap described by OP. Just nip it in the bud.

I'm 50 years old and had plenty of attitude when I was a teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont' agree that this behavior is normal. Yes, they can get moody and experience mood swings, but in no way it is normal to treat the parent disrespectfully. It didn't happened just now. Your acceptance of this behaviour will only serve as approval. I have one teenager (16) and one pre-teen girls. In no way they would ever roll their eyes at me or their dad. With the tone, watch how do you talk to them. They have tendency to copy your behaviour.
Pointing out their behaviour is a good thing because they may not even realize that what are they doing is unexeptable. Remember, they are still kids, even if they taller than you. Yes, my 10 y.o. came this morning and started complaints on the kitchen that the oatmeal is too liquidy, and that I should not put fresh berries in it. After I explained to her that if she wants to have the oatmeal made to her liking, she should start making it herself. I told her it is totally unexeptable to make comments like that after I put an effort to cook a breakfast for everyone. She apologized and ate breakfast and said thank you for the breakfast.

Well aren't you high and mighty. It's easy to be a perfect parent when you have easy kids.

I am not perfect parent, I work full time also. And I wouldn't call my kids easy, but I worked with them from the birth (breastfed for 1.5 years each, stayed at home for a year after birth, etc. and always were there when they needed me. Plus, we don't have any grandparents in US. So, please, don't tell me I got it easy).