Overuse of terms of endearment
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Anonymous
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OP, you're such a moron. She's sincere AND she's exhausted by the end of your visit. How hard is that to understand? |
Anonymous
| I shouldn't engage, but, I know this woman and you don't. How hard is that for you to understand? |
Anonymous
Then why are you asking people who don't know her for opinions? 
Seriously, I get that you have insider information, but your original complaint is basically that her words are too kind so they must be fake. As a southern woman, I totally get that it happens, like when "bless your heart" is an insult rather than an expression of concern, or when you call DH sweetie after he mows down your rose bushes. But usually that sarcastic use of kind words isn't directed at children, especially not one's own grandchildren. Also, you're complaining that she might be tired of having guests. Children are exhausting and MIL is older. Of course she's tired and out of her element. She doesn't have small children living with her, so she's probably exhausted. All that's not to say that you're totally wrong and there's no way she's being unkind. However, based on the information you put out there for us, there's no reason for us to read such negativity into her motives. Sorry you weren't validated more. |
Anonymous
| Another reason why older people sometimes do this is to cover for difficulty remembering names. |
Anonymous
| MIL is not that old. The problem I have is the excessive use of the nicknames to the point that it seems ingratiating. |
Anonymous
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I don't know if this is what you mean, but my MIL can be a bit like this. She will go out of her way to tell me how wonderful of a mother I am in a sickly sweet way, not sarcastic, just over the top. Then her actions will show the complete opposite, like bringing a birthday cake to my kids party "just in case you forgot."
She does it with my kids too. Will be overly endearing with how much she loves them, but then refuse to listen to them when they talk. It's weird. I have learned that is just how she is though. So I do the same back. I tell her what a wonderful grandmother she is, then bitch about her on DCUM 
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Anonymous
Lol so why post bitch? Your poor husband. You've probably beaten him into submission because you can't take anyone not agreeing with you. An advanced congratulations on messing up your kids psycho mom! |
Anonymous
Wow, are you a bully IRL or just behind the safety of your keyboard? |
Anonymous
Thankfully i don't surround myself with people like OP in real life. Have little patience for people like her and I think they make people around them more miserable. But their emotional intelligence is so low they can't see it. |
Anonymous
| I don't use terms of endearment as a rule, but for some reason this really comes out with the grandkids. I'm crazy about them and I just want to express how I feel. |
Anonymous
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Okay, so let me get this straight.
One of the things I have noticed about MIL is that she uses A LOT of terms of endearment on my kids. Over a 2 day visit, I heard about 25-50 sweeties, honeys, buddies, sugars, etc. By the end of the visit, it seemed like she was ready for us to leave, which made me feel like her affection is fake. Please weigh in--is she fake or sincere? How long will she keep this up? Does anyone constantly do this and is there any end in sight? Something about it is rubbing me the wrong way, but it's not like I can say anything even though it seems sickly sweet and makes me want to vomit.
MIL is not that old. The problem I have is the excessive use of the nicknames to the point that it seems ingratiating. 1. she calls your kids sweet names. 2. you want us to weigh in - is she fake or sincere? 3. But...but... YOU know this woman and WE DO NOT!!! 4. She's not old, but excessively uses sweet nicknames. 5. The nicknames are so sweet you want to vomit. Seriously?
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Anonymous
| Oh, I know! I know! Tell your MIL to call your kids "jerk-face" and "asshole" will that make you feel better? |