Do you keep love letters/gifts/cards from previous boyfriends & relationships that did not work out?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, photos too. DH doesn't care. A few shoeboxes of past memorabilia. I wouldn't date a man threatened by past loves, much less marry a man intimated by such nonsense.

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My husband is my great love, but not the only love in my life. Why would I want to erase good memories and history?

Yes. I have less than a shoe box's worth - love poems, a sad letter, a few pictures and the two weeks rings he gave me. It's a reminder, we had many good times together.

[Anonymous]

No, I gave the jewelry away, donated some of it to the thrift, and tossed the cards and photos.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I kept it for a while but got rid of it before engagement, while cleaning for a move.

Same here.

This. Donated the stuffed animals.

No my husband didn't make me.

I just didn't see the point, but I'm very much a live in the moment type.

[Anonymous]

I kept most of it, yes.

[Anonymous]

Sure, I have a box of stuff like that. I don't keep them because I have feelings for any of the exes - it's really because it's neat looking back at my younger self and the letters/photos are a part of my history. It's similar to reading old journals. DH isn't threatened by them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I have a box of stuff like that. I don't keep them because I have feelings for any of the exes - it's really because it's neat looking back at my younger self and the letters/photos are a part of my history. It's similar to reading old journals. DH isn't threatened by them.

Just to add - most of the letters/poems are from when I was 16-22, and I'm 45 now. I can't imagine that threatening my DH. Now, something more recent, like from the guy I dated right before him, might bother him more. But the passionate, star-crossed stuff was from when I was really young, long before I met DH.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, no. I trashed it all when the relationship was over. I had no desire to keep it.

[Anonymous]

The letters are like my journals. I would never toss them. My life has changed, but I would never want to lose that history. My husband understands it. I imagine he has similar letters. I would never ask to read them, but don't begrudge that he kept them.

I waited a long time to end up with him, as he did with me.

[Anonymous]

I also kept everything for awhile, but tossed it when we got married and moved in together.

I kept the jewelry, although most of it is out of style now. I don't really think my husband would care if I was wearing some silver Tiffany necklace an ex gave me 15 years ago.

[Anonymous]

I have a box of memories from lots of old boyfriends, not one in particular. It also has letters and other memories from friends and journals I've had since I was 8. DH has something similar. No big deal. However, I have many pieces of jewelry that were given to my by past boyfriends that I wear regularly DH does not know where they came from and I know he would be upset about it. I will never tell him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kept it for a while but got rid of it before engagement, while cleaning for a move.

+1

[Anonymous]

Was married 30 years and loved my husband deeply. Found out he had been having an affair the entire 30 years. I collected up all the letters and cards I had saved from over the years and pitched them. Removed all his photos from the family album and pitched them. Packed him up and pitched him (ie had him move out). Removed pictures from the wedding album of myself and my family and plan to pitch the remainder but am holding off for a year or two just to make sure. Sold the wedding ring for melt value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was married 30 years and loved my husband deeply. Found out he had been having an affair the entire 30 years. I collected up all the letters and cards I had saved from over the years and pitched them. Removed all his photos from the family album and pitched them. Packed him up and pitched him (ie had him move out). Removed pictures from the wedding album of myself and my family and plan to pitch the remainder but am holding off for a year or two just to make sure. Sold the wedding ring for melt value.

You go girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had one ex who gifted me a timeless Gucci bag and a beautiful Tiffany's necklace. I've kept both. I see no reason to part with them.

+1 I did the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you keep all of that stuff or did you throw it all in the trash as soon as the relationships ended?

If you kept some of them, what does your current husband think about you keeping them?

I keep one card from an old boyfriend. Not cause of sentimental stuff but because the card is funny. Other than that, into the trash